Pen My World

Keep Your Eyes on the Prize

2011-10-31T09:18:00.000-05:00

When you walk down the sidewalk, do you acknowledge/discuss/become distraught at every piece of trash or debris you see? I don't. I see it, of course... But I walk around it, step over it or even kick it out of the way... And keep moving forward.

When I work out, I don't get mad at the machines for causing me pain or discomfort, because I know it's necessary for me to reach my intended results. Going to school, working towards promotions or owning businesses, taking care of a family, nurturing relationships.... All of these and more are complicated and oftentimes difficult commitments we take on REGARDLESS of the burdens that may come along with them. All because we somehow remain focused on the intended goal...degrees, large salaries, well rounded and successful children, etc.

Treat your Life the same. Don't focus on the woes and the blows....whether that's a situation, or a person. Problems (including being hurt by people) are a necessary part of our existence, in order for us to grow and evolve into who God desires us to be.

Don't allow your emotional energy to be wasted on WHAT you are going thru. What's important is HOW and WHY you go through it. Difficult does not equate to Impossible. Falling down is inevitable... Staying down is Optional.

Until Next Time... D.D. Walker

Drama & Negativity: How to Disengage

2011-07-11T20:16:00.000-05:00

For those who consistently find themselves saturated with someone else’s mess and drama...Take heed.

Life comes pre-packaged with Ups, Downs, Trials and Victories. They all come standard. What does not come standard; however, is a life manual instructing us on the best possible way to handle all of the above. (For those that may not have read the Bible) Today, we will address a simple and universal disease that infects our lives all too often. Mess.

I say, make it stop with You. DO NOT allow people to force their stagnant, negative situations on you and disrupt your peace. You have NO obligation to entertain gossip and negativity. Instead, you should focus on becoming a soothing salve to calm any hurt brought to your attention. You can only do that by completely revoking negativity from the controllable aspects of your life. Allow it NO access! Of course, we ALL will experience negative situations outside of our immediate control, but we still have the option IN those situations to control our responses TO them.

He said, She said.
When does it end?

People always want a cheerleader…someone to tell them that they are right and the rest of the world is irrevocably wrong. The problem with gathering those cheerleaders is this: People will always minimize their direct involvement in a bad situation when they relay it to others. What person will have the “back” of someone who is actually the instigator not the victim? People add to stories, subtract from them, exaggerate or outright make things up from thin air…and we ALL know this. Yet for some reason, when it’s a best friend-family member-or even an entertaining associate…we tend to forget that vital rule. We will hold onto every word that spills out of their mouths as if it was the Gospel.

I have always been a firm believer that the first one to talk (especially to outside third parties who have nothing to do with the problem itself), is usually the first one to lie. Why do you think people share negative things about a person WITH SOMEONE ELSE THAT PERSON KNOWS? Unfortunately, when a person has a “problem” with someone- they will often encourage people around them to have a problem with that person as well…especially concerning shared relationships. (family, friends, co-workers, church members, etc) Even though you cannot avoid it, you can ignore it. We, as a people, really need to work on what nonsense we allow into our personal bubble…infecting our Peace.

Whenever someone tries to pull you into a drama-filled situation, I have a very important mental process that I Strongly recommend you adopt. BEFORE you even allow yourself to comment, question, relate or form an opinion at all – Ask yourself these 4 questions and answer them HONESTLY. (don’t worry…I’ve included explanations of each question…)

1. How does this situation DIRECTLY affect me?
(If you are not involved in any fashion, it really isn’t anything you should be discussing…if you really want to be real about it.)

2. What is the REAL purpose/intent behind this information being shared with me?
(Weigh the info being shared. Is it for my benefit, or is it being shared so that I can change my opinion about another person… for a reason that has nothing to do with me directly. Are you telling me this so that I can HELP you, or so I can HATE the other person? BIG DIFFERENCE)

3. What is the TRUE character of the person telling me their situation? Based on what I have PERSONALLY seen/experienced.
(This is a given. If you know you are dealing with someone who lies, exaggerates, leaves their faults out of the equation, etc…you OBVIOUSLY may not want to take everything they say at face value and vice versa.)
4. Did the person tell me ANYTHING negative about themselves (actions, reactions, words, etc?)…or was the entire “fault” placed on the other party involved?
(Beware of ANY negative situation relayed to you…where only ONE party had anything to do with the problem. If you are listening and they do not mention one thing negative about their OWN actions/reactions… I would be very cautious about what I decided to believe.) It cannot ALWAYS be EVERYONE ELSE all the time.

How those questions are answered should directly dictate your responses. I am not telling you to be rude and not listen to a friend bearing their hearts burdens, I am simply advising you to turn on your God-given filter and activate your political correct responses. I personally recommend, “I hate that you are going through this negative situation right now, but all I can do is pray that God will work it all out the way it’s supposed to be. Stay strong and focused on the positive until everything works itself out.”

Remember, the only seeds that will take root in your Life, are the seeds you nurture.
Protect your garden and be very cautious of who you allow to poke around in it. Anyone sowing discord should have their garden privileges revoked immediately. Let them observe your beautiful harvest of peace, productivity and wisdom from a safe distance.

D.D. Walker

DeWun Music: The Man, The Music, The Movement

2011-05-23T23:04:00.001-05:00

I introduce to you, DeWun Music...

Off the Record:

Being the complex critic that I am, I tend to shy away from those things that fall under the category of commercially safe or unoriginal. My attention is very short-lived when I lack the right inspirations. It is a breath of fresh air to meet someone proclaiming to be an artist, and you can actually see…no feel, the confirmation of that claim. With his trendy attire, clean cut appearance and self-assured aura, you might –at first glance- mistake this Ghanaian bred artist as a performer of R&B. Perhaps that is because of the stigma that is often attached to rappers. “I would like to be a game changer and show the world a different side of urban artists”- DeWun Music . Well, consider that mission accomplished. His influential method and ingenuity speaks for itself. From the power of his individual skills to the persuasively commanding results of those talents combined, I can confidently place my Seal of Appeal on all that DeWun Music represents. You know, I can honestly say that I walked away from this interview more than pleased. I walked away Impressed. PMW’s “Off the Record” is exposing you to one of the best unsigned artists to hit localized and mainstream media. As you digest the DeWun Music breakdown, plan to become a fan.

#Trakk Season: Volume 1 RELEASED MAY 23, 2011

FREE download of the album here - http://www.mediafire.com/?0a24lfanlnsxb9n

The Man:

The young man that sat before me had a few things going for him besides the obvious. That was for certain. How would I describe him in a nutshell? A stylish persona wrapped around impressive intelligence surrounded by a humble confidence. Top all that off with one infectious smile, and you have Mr. Kwabena Owusu, aka DeWun Music. At the start of our interview, we chatted about life, listened to some tracks and briefly discussed what may or may not be the current plight of Hip Hop as it stands. I appreciated being able to hold our meeting in his studio as it was very interesting observing how he worked. You can learn a lot about a person by simply listening and watching. What did I learn? DeWun Music personifies dedication, creativity and respect for ones craft. He is an artist you can depend on to remain devoted in his commitment to Hip Hop and consistent in his contributions to the industry as a whole.

The Music:

No gimmicks. Pure Talent. That’s the truth if I ever told it. Starting off as a producer, DeWun music did not hesitate to leave his mark where ever he saw strategically fit. There is a method to the madness and you can’t help but love the end results. Holding a portfolio of over 200 original and sample free beats, DeWun Music breaks the mold of what you would expect from a “newcomer”. Hey, he’s not new to this, there is just a lot we missed. DeWun music has provided production for several well known artists across Dallas/Ft. Worth, performed in sold out venues and opened for acts such as David Banner, Paul Wall, Juvenile, Slim of 112 and several more. (DeWun Music Bio)

Check out DeWun Music representing for Ghana and the South on BET’s 106 and Park!

http://www.ourstage.com/tracks/RPTHJSNVFBHN-bet-park-

The Movement:

Take a moment to check out the following links. Become a part of Wun Nation.

Additional Artist Info

Website: www.DeWunNation.com

EPK: http://www.ourstage.com/epk/dewunmusic

Find DeWun Music:

DeWun.Music@gmail.com

www.DeWunNation.com

www.Facebook.com/DeWun

www.Twitter.com/DeWun_Music

www.Youtube.com/user/DeWunTV

To Be...or Not to Be.

2011-04-05T22:20:00.000-05:00

Below, I have composed a relatively simple opinion piece in response to a very intriguing question one of my colleagues presented to me today. The question was- A couple dated for 5 years. The past 2 years were tragic. They separated for 2 years then became reacquainted and decided to try AGAIN. How should they approach this? Start OVER (if possible) and leave the past in the past or Pick up where they left off and try to clean a few things up? What types of obstacles will need to be dealt with?

OK, well first…I think we need ONE more clarification.

Was it a mutual decision to “Start Over”…or was it mutually decided to “Pick up where they left off.” There is a big difference between the two. One has no obstacles to overcome while the other has plenty. Moreover, if each person is “mutually agreeing” on two different things…therein lies the base problem. Some things should remain black and white because gray areas leave too much room for error.

Breaking up means the relationship, as it was, has ended.
Making up means, you have decided to Forgive.
Forgiving means, you BURY the hatchet WITHOUT leaving the handle above ground. (This is one of my favorite phrases!)

When re-committing, some say working through past issues will strengthen the new relationship. I disagree. I believe that you should “work through” issues (reasonable ones) if you have not already ended the relationship and both parties want to make it work. However, once it’s OVER, it’s over. Now, if you choose to look past the pain and start again with the same person who caused it, whatever the offense and whoever committed it should become irrelevant. If you choose to start again, don’t do it half way. If it cannot be done baggage-free, it should not be done at all. This will save everyone, including you, unnecessary stress. Sometimes we try to preserve things that have already reached their expiration date.

Not everyone in your Life is destined to stay a Lifetime- No matter how much a person may want it to be so.
The sting of a hurtful situation always fades with time. That is when you can sometimes “sike” yourself into believing you should save what has already been dismantled. EVERY relationship has had its share of “good times” and if that was the deciding factor in holding on…well, we would never be able to let go of anyone! Every relationship, from casual to committed, is a Lesson- A progressive step towards your growth as a person. Sometimes, when a relationship concludes (no matter how messy)…The ending should not be taken as a Negative thing, but more of a Necessary one.

If you know in your heart that you cannot start over completely, do not Start Again.

Allowing issues that instigated the initial breakup to penetrate and dictate the path and progress of your “new” relationship, is the equivalent of buying a new car and replacing the parts with crap from your old one. No matter how much you repair and polish an old engine, it is STILL an old engine. You are driving around in a ride that looks GREAT on the outside, but you know its 2 miles away from a major breakdown.

You can compare it to anything that makes the point clearer for you. A game, a test, a grade-level in school, a Job, anything! All of these examples are very important things that you MUST start over from scratch if you ever LOSE, FAIL or QUIT. You can’t fail a test, then take it again with part of the answers already filled in! You fail a grade level, you have to start the entire year again...from scratch (taking the same classes, same teachers, etc.) You lose a job; you have to start over with your search and even training when you secure another one. People always want to know how to evolve and progress, but they will not acknowledge what is required to make that happen. You can not "monkey bar" life...holding onto what’s behind you while still trying to move forward. Unfortunately, everyone is different and some people like their comfort zones...no matter how chaotic they may be.

History is supposed to remain in the PAST...if not, you FORCE it to displace your Present.

We have never, in any situation, been successful at re-writing history, so why would you set yourself up for a major letdown? Of course, it is important to remember certain negative experiences because they teach you a safer way to approach the same situation in the future. You speed down a certain street and get pulled over, you will never speed down that street again. You invest time or money into something that yields no return, you will shy away from similar situations in the future. I am not telling you to act as if certain things NEVER happened- that is unrealistic. I am saying,you should not act as if they are happening right NOW. Especially if they are not.
Negative History in your Positive Present is a recipe for Future Disaster.

The point is this; You SHOULD NOT re-commit if you suffer from any issues in the past relationship that you cannot let go of completely. For most people, that will prevent a lot of naive “rekindling” from growing into a tragic inferno…consuming everything it touches.

In conclusion, although my opinions may be expressive, perhaps even assertive in delivery, they are simply that- One Woman's Opinion. Always follow your heart (giving your brain a bit of a say-so as well!) because ultimately, only YOU really knows whats best for you.

D. D. Walker

www.PenMyWorld.com

www.OriginalXpression.com (coming soon!)

Sip of Inspiration: The Cycle

2011-02-23T14:21:00.000-06:00

You will never experience Understanding without Communication.

Communication will never develop without Respect.

Respect is nurtured by Reciprocation.

For you cannot expect to Receive what you are reluctant to Give.

To revolutionize what your heart Perceives,

You must be Open to Receive….and Retain.

Listen.

It all starts right there…

Step outside of what you think you already know… and just Listen.

Evolution is Inevitable...

-Dani

The Elephant Syndrome

2011-02-23T14:20:00.000-06:00

I had a very enlightening conversation with a dear friend of mine recently. He opened my mind to a number of things that, I believe, started an immediate evolvement within my heart. I was told a very interesting story about taming wild elephants. I was captivated...because of how close to home allot of his words were hitting. I was convicted. So in my learning experience, I decided to share with my readers what I learned by the words that were so generously shared with me.

The Elephant Syndrome

They have a Massive presence, Powerful and Incredibly intelligent. Yet, They say to train a wild elephant, all you have to do is place a chain around his ankle. He will continue to try and break free until he realizes its too difficult. He will eventually cease trying. At that time, all you have to do is put a rope around his ankle and as long as he FEELS the presence of a restraint...he wont even attempt to break free. Some of us are like those elephants. All it takes is experiencing a setback, a little pain, or disappointment before we lose all focus and faith in what should TRULY matter. Our Success in Life.
Why would you choose to allow a Person, Situation or even a Current Employer to limit your movement in Life? Why would you decide stagnation is better than evolution? Why would you believe MAN when he says that you CANT, when the ONE WHO CREATED MAN says that you CAN? Why are you clipping your own wings? Figure out who you are and what you want to do with your Life, then put it into action. It wont be easy and It wont happen overnight...but what great thing does? Success is not only measured by what is tangible, but also by what is psychological. Peace of mind, Confidence, Honor and Courage, Respect for self and others, Self Control...these are all measures of Internal Success that are just as important, if not more so, than anything you can accomplish physically. You are NOT a prisoner in Life, you are a Guest....

So please Believe this if nothing else in this post hits home. , take that rope off your ankle and break free. You CAN do more. You CAN have more. You ARE more.

-Dani

Stay tuned...

2011-01-23T23:39:00.002-06:00

Got something real hot coming for you... stay tuned...

Until Next Time... D.D. Walker

Mind, Body & Soul

2010-12-08T18:36:00.000-06:00

The Influence of my Mind is incredible.

Inconceivable how The Thought always evolves into The Tangible.

Applying dedication to the fruits of my imagination,

Persistence with a vengeance.

For Success is mine for the taking.

The Allure of my Body and the class, in which I stand,

Often brings pause to the most confident of men...

It is crucial that the Physical remain Inaccessible.

Lest you be obsessed,

With what is undoubtedly Exceptional.

My Soul radiates an authentic feel,

Captivating the curious with the refreshing appeal of Real.

The Power of its purity nurtures a protective balance.

Offering calm within chaos,

And Resolve for any challenge.

Complicated simplicity,

The beauty Of

The makings Of ….

that which is Me.

Mind, Body and Soul.

All the shades of a Divine masterpiece.

by D.D. Walker

Soul Call

2010-12-01T19:17:00.001-06:00

Don't say you're a Christian and Proud

...until you have to repeat it out loud.

With Words, your love of God you exclaim.

But your Actions never support that claim...

Sunday morn you will tear down the altar,

confessing all your Faults and Sins.
By Friday night, you've turned Wrong into Right.

The Script flipped to "God knows what's within!"

"Amen and Hallelujah!", You shout when Life is Right.

But at the First sign of Trouble, Your Praise is out of sight.

Don't take the Word, Mix it up, Chopped and Screwed.

Only referencing the parts that don't affect what You Do.

Traveling in darkness on a road where Soul Growth is Dead.

If you can't serve God in Truth,

You will continue to be Mislead..... and Underfed.

I say this not to offend, For I too represent Imperfection.

I share this to bring Awareness

...to a Self-Inflicted Spiritual Deception.

If you feel Shame about The Son while living here on Earth...

You will not be claimed before His Father,

...where you Know it matters the most.

D.D. Walker

The Last Love Letter

2010-11-26T13:42:00.001-06:00

Last Love Letter…

I told you I could not handle anything Love had to give.

Not Denying it or Declining it.

I just need to Delay it…for a time in my mind when I can better Receive it.

Believe it. This is real.

My heart is Cracked.

So don’t Pack it full of warm promises and tender wishes pressed down and sealed with passionate kisses.

I don’t need it. I see it. But I don’t believe it.

My Body, though Willing, isn’t strong enough for the Feeling that being in love with you would Ignite.

Inside me rages a War, a Battle…this Fight.

I am losing Control of…the Safety of…What I Know of…

Or thought I Knew, Till there was You.

I am Sighing inside, Dying to Confide in you all the secrets of my Past.

The ones that Hold me…Grip me…Keeping me from Being me.

Nurturing the fear that nothing worth having will Last.

That Past.

Keeping me Cold at Night when your warm arms are around me.

Making me Fight, in Spite of your soothing presence that surrounds me.

I cant. I am not ready. This I expressed in the beginning.

My soul is in need of some heavy mending.

But its not your Duty to see Me through this Recovery.

So I send you this letter to set you Free….Do you see?

I will never let you Pay for Mistakes you did not Make.

You are everything I Need, just not what I can Responsibly Take.

What a man like you deserves, is more than I am able to Give.

So take your Desires and this Letter, I beg you to seek someone Better.

Go…. Love…and Live.

D.D. Walker

(this piece is dedicated to all those who have ever experienced any situation similar to the one described above. Inspired from a collection of experiences gathered from both women and men alike, it is my hope that this poem encompasses a set of emotions all can relate to. D.D.W.)

Revelation: An Odie but goody

2010-09-12T23:27:00.000-05:00

Revelation

I do not smile because I am constantly happy. I am constantly happy because I smile.
Or should I be discouraged by the lows and overtaken by my woes
Without a doubt, in pursuing that route...In my soul, pure discontentment would I rile.

I do not love because my heart is full, my heart is full because I love.
Or should I allow the pessimism of man to control the generosity of my spirit
Mirroring emotional suicide...too substandard to endure, too disastrous to speak of....

To smile in spite of pain exemplifies a distinctive, impenetrable inner peace.
To love in place of hate magnifies Hope, that encouraging level of optimism we should all aspire to reach

I live to hope ....committed to produce
in this I shall never tire
I produce to liberate ...consistent in my release
eager to successfully Inspire.

My Life is not rewarding because I have things,
My Life is rewarding because I have dreams.

Until Next Time... D.D. Walker

Sip of Inspiration: DIVAS!!!

2010-03-02T13:32:00.000-06:00

I love being a Diva...

and it is IMPERATIVE that I teach my daughters the importance of realizing EARLY IN YOUR LIFE that being a Diva is more than a blessing...it is a your Birthright.

One you must Learn to Earn so that you can Be the Best in Your Success. (Come on now!)
You were created to be nothing less.
You...my beautiful ladies...were created for Excellence.
Each trial, victory, lesson and defeat is another stroke towards the most meaningful painting an artist could ever create, Your Life.
And yes (you guessed it.. :) God IS and ALWAYS WILL be the MASTER ARTIST.

As you Experience, Learn.
As you Learn, Grow.
Understand and Embrace your worth.
Realize that you Are a Diva.
DIVAS!!! (Divinely Incredible Victorious And Successful)

Until Next Time...
D.D. Walker

Sip of Inspiration: Remain unbiased

2010-02-26T02:36:00.000-06:00

You think you know... But you have no idea. Uphold NO ONE in their wrongdoing... Even a person you can't comprehend doing a thing out of line. Think about the parts of YOUR life, personality, character, flaws, etc that you keep hidden from the common world... Do u not think others do the same? Trust in nothing 100% ...but God. Only HE can place dependable human beings in your path. Judge no one based off what another may tell you, you govern your opinions by what that person has personally shown you. No one can please everyone, this we All should know.

Until Next Time...
D.D. Walker

Sip of Inspiration: Your Problem

2010-02-26T02:32:00.000-06:00

Ok. So being an unbiased thinker means u may often have to place yourself under the same realistic scrutiny that you place others. When dealing with a PROBLEM (whatever it may be), analyze YOUR contribution to the issue. It may be one of two things. Either your DELIVERY or your RECEPTION is inaccurate.. Listen as Pass...ionately as you Speak...and understand that Different does not ALWAYS mean Wrong. Balanced and Fair Communication can conquer countless battles.

Until Next Time...
D.D. Walker

Sip of Inspiration: Quality

2010-02-26T02:30:00.000-06:00

Quality. Surround yourself with it. In every aspect of your life. Time, People, Foods, Counsel, Music,... Nurture the Expectation of Excellence within yourself and all that which surrounds you. And understand this, Quality is not always expense related. Choose fruit over junk, take the stairs instead of the elevator, ...stay indoors with good company instead of going out to the fight the night life alone, pray instead of worry, smile when you feel like cursing out the world, remove yourself from gossip and align yourself with encouragment, Love Completely and Shamelessly.... U get the picture. Quality people. Accept and RETURN nothing less.

Until Next Time...
D.D. Walker

Loving my lunch...

2010-01-12T16:01:00.000-06:00

This has to be, by far, the most relaxing lunch break I have had in a long time. And I am not doing anything but sitting in my car, listening to music with the windows cracked while I tap away at this laptop...but for some reason, Im enjoying a little more today. (smile)

Time is winding down on me. The break from school, brief though it was, was very refreshing. I feel as if my mind has been charged, my priorities are back in line and my focus is sharper than ever. Have another full schedule, of course....5 classes to be exact. I'm not worried in the least. This semester, I am taking no prisoners...(flexing my biceps..lol) I have been a little worried lately about my chosen field. Journalism, especially print media, isnt what it used to be. But perhaps thats why I am sharpening my craft right now...so I can change the game. Even a little bit is better than nothing at all! (smile harder)

Anyhow, my lunch break is coming to an end. As is this post. :) I will blog ya soon...until then,

Be Blessed!

Until Next Time...
D.D. Walker

U-Won-te Savior Poetry and Tee Event

2009-12-13T20:59:00.002-06:00

The annual U-Won-Te Savior (You Want a Savior) Poetry and Tee event is known to deliver to its audience Talent, Encouragement as well as Spiritual Enlightenment. I am pleased that Amps Dallas and Pen My World received an invitation to attend this brilliant event because it was truly worth every second that we spent in the building.

The unity behind the scenes was commendable. Entrance was simple and organized, the structure of the show itself was well-thought out and the comfort of the attendees was always demonstrated to be prime priority. The performances at the event ranged from a cappella musical renditions to intense spoken word pieces crafted to provoke the mind and convict the heart, such as the moving presentation given by the GRIP Poetry team out of Shreveport, La.

Each act had its own intensity, its own message and its own unique delivery. What a blessing to be a part of such a powerful Christian movement. Speaking of unique, what a perfect way to introduce the guest star of the entire affair, the U-Won-te Savior T-shirt line.

Created by Y'wante James as a trendy symbol of pride for Believers, the apparel line launched at this event allows you to effectively spread the Power and Positivity of God’s Word without ever saying a thing.
Although the Divine Idea for the U-Won-te Savior T-shirt line was conceived well before now, the groundwork for this movement was officially established in 2009. His desire to create these encouraging t-shirts started 2 years ago after he realized that OUR Creator was better than any other designer known to man. For that Creator IS the Designer of Man. So, taking a spiritual stand, Y’wante stepped righteously out on Faith and created a brand for Jesus. U-WON-TE SAVIOR Tees seek not only to encourage, to entice and to educate those that may not have a personal relationship with our Savior, but also to showcase a Supremely Stylish Spiritual Swagger. All while exhibiting to the world that you are a Proud Child of God.

Sport a U-WON-TE SAVIOR Tee
Because to a Non- Believer,
You could be the closest thing to Jesus they will ever See

Hope to see each of you next year at the annual U-Won-te Savior Poetry and Tee event!

Until Next Time...
Dani Walker

PenMyWorld.com

Justice.... Biased or Not?

2009-11-28T15:24:00.000-06:00

A stone fixture of hope and fairness promoting faith in an ever evolving legal system, Lady Justice stands tall. But with her blindfolded eyes and balanced scales of impartiality, she merely symbolizes what we DESIRE our justice system to be not what accurately represents its state today. The various stories that I have read on different threads and blogs...or seen in newspapers and on television describing personal discrimination from the law are significant examples of imperfect people (which we all are) placed in positions where not only is perfection expected but it is a necessity…a necessity only if we want to continue to believe with conviction that our justice system has no bias. Obviously, humans will never be perfect in every way; therefore, anything run by them will contain flaws as well.

Nowadays, reverse racism is just as prevalent as “traditional” discrimination. In my own personal opinion (as I continue with this example allow me to trivially point out that I am an African American woman), there is no difference between a White Woman grabbing her purse when she sees a black man and a Black Man assuming the white woman standing alone next to him on the elevator is prejudice because she clutches her purse closer. Sure…it happens, and oftentimes it is racially motivated…but surely not EVERY time? If we ever hope to evolve as a people, we can’t continue to use the Fear of being mistreated as a provocation to mistreat. Perhaps that means I’m secretly prejudice of all races and genders…because if I am alone on an elevator with ANYONE that I cannot physically overpower should a random criminal act occur, I become more guarded and aware as well. Of course, not to the extent of offending the other party or making myself seem psychotic…but enough to make myself consciously aware of my surroundings. Nowadays, you can never be too careful and indiscriminate violence is not limited to a particular race or gender..

Reactions to the O.J Simpson trial were divided almost squarely down the middle, with Whites favoring a Guilty conviction and Blacks championing for an Acquittal. The White community initially held O.J. in high regard. From his football and commentating careers, down to his acting stints…the world loved him. He even received preferential treatment from law enforcement during his tumultuous marriage to Nicole Brown. However, the persuasive case evidence presented by the prosecution quickly shifted their praise to disgust. Whereas, the Black community saw this trial as a conduit of future misconduct by law enforcement. Their focus was primarily on his race and the history of legal injustices in their culture. To Blacks, the evidence wasn’t compelling enough. Although he was freed on those charges, he is now currently serving time in prison for another crime. Was this conviction given on solid evidence or as retribution for the lost murder conviction 13 years ago? Please check out this site for great additional information! http://www.law.umkc.edu/faculty/projects/ftrials/simpson/oj.htm
Of course our White brothers and sisters express general faith in the Justice System. It was created, governed, and altered by their ancestors throughout history. Their personal run ins with the law, for the most part, have been consistent enough to raise such confidences. I’m sure they do not believe it is perfect, but I’m certain they do not share the same fears of the legal system that other races have due to the fact that these other races base their apprehension with the Justice System on those relevant occurrences in their immediate and historical pasts.

Without a doubt our Justice System is biased. In comparison to our legal structure of the past where murderers were knowingly set free (such as the Emmett Till case where two white men admitted to killing a black child AND sold the confession to a magazine but were still Acquitted), we have come a considerable way on the path of justice and equality. But we still have far to go. Our system is not only biased by race, but by economic status and even the political aspirations and goals of those facilitating the decisions. Realistically…NO bias should be tolerated in a system that determines the Life and even Death of another human being. But that again is looking for perfection from the imperfect…a never ending dilemma?

Teen Violence: a Radio One townhall meeting

2009-11-21T05:48:00.001-06:00

from thebeatdfw.com

"TEEN VIOLENCE"

(TOWN HALL MEETING)

Location: Radio One Studios (in Valley View Mall)

13331 Preston Road, Suite 1180

Dallas, Texas 75240

(972) 331- 5400

(PROGRAM & TIMELINE)

6:00 PM – 6:30 PM Official Meet / Greet and Welcome to Panelist

6:30 PM Doors Open for Studio Guest

6:45 PM Explanation of Program to Studio Audience

6:55 PM KBFB & KSOC Simulcast Clocks started

7:00 PM – 7:08 PM Welcome by Rudy V what lead us to this town hall meeting.

Rudy V Introduces Supa K and Keynote

Supa K & Keynote explanation of Program, specific concerns, plan of action.

Supa K and Keynote Introduce guest panelists:

Introduction of Panelist & Guest from Dallas

Deputy Mayor Pro Tem Dwaine R. Caraway
Dallas District Attorney Craig Watkins
Chief of Police David Kunkle
Councilwoman Carolyn R. Davis (District 7)
Councilman Tennell Atkins (District
Yella "Former Gang Member"

Introduction of Panelist and Guest from Fort Worth
Deputy Chief of Police R.K Robertson
Councilman Frank Moss

Introduction of Panelist from Texas Youth Commission

7:08 PM – 7:10 PM PRAYER (PASTOR FREDDY HAYNES)

7:10 PM – 7:25 PM Rudy V: QUESTIONS / ANWSERS

7:25 PM – 7:40 PM Possible Solutions (Narrator Supa K & Keynote)

7:40 PM – 7:45 PM How do we Measure Success? (Narrator Rudy V)

7:45 PM – 7:50 PM Summary /Closing Comments from Panelist

"RADIO SHOW ENDS @ 7:50 PM"

For Immediate Release

Radio One, Inc.-Dallas KSOC 94.5 K SOUL, KBFB 97.9 the Beat, will host their Inaugural Teen Violence Town Hall Meeting "Live"!

Dallas, Texas, November 9, 2009- Teen violence has no borders or boundaries…it has evolved with a vicious mutation locally and globally and KSOC 94.5 K SOUL, KBFB 97.9 The Beat, Mayor Pro Tem Dwaine R. Caraway, The City of Dallas and Councilman Frank Moss of the City of Fort Worth are joining forces to examine and discuss this perilous issue with its Inaugural Teen Violence Town Hall Meeting at Radio One Studios located in the Valley View Mall at 13331 Preston Road, Suite 1180 in Dallas, Texas.

Sunday, November 22, 2009 from 7:00PM to 9:00PM, the Teen Violence Town Hall Meeting will place the subject of teen violence on center stage as both KSOC 94.5 K Soul and KBFB 97.9 The Beat's on air personalities BROADCAST LIVE ON AIR with guest from the City of Dallas, Mayor Pro Tem Dwaine R. Caraway (District 4), Dallas Council Members Carolyn R. Davis (District 7), Tennel Atkins (District Police Chief David Kunkle and District Attorney Craig Watkins. Guests from the City of Fort Worthinclude, Councilman Frank Moss and Deputy Police Chief R. K. Robertson.

This town hall meeting of city officials, social administrators and educators will address numerous forms, facets and factors of teen violence and its effects globally but more specifically here in the Metro-Plex. This open forum will also allow numerous opportunities to dialogue how being proactive collectively as parents, individuals and within our communities is the key to diminish teen violence's growth in our homes, schools and neighborhoods.

The public is strongly encouraged to participate. To personallyattend the Teen Violence Town Hall Meeting, due to limited seating, only the first two hundred people that log on to either station's new website and register for an In Studio Pass will be allowed entry on Sunday at the Radio One Studios located at 13331 Preston Road Suite 1180 in Dallas, Texas. To request your pass log on to www.thesoulofdfw.com (K-Soul) or the new website for The Beatwww.thebeatdfw.com .

Please join us On Sunday, November 22, 2009 at Radio One Studios located at 13331 Preston Road, Suite 1180 in Dallas, Texas from 7:00PM to 9:00PM, at the Inaugural Teen Violence Town Hall Meeting change begins with the first line of defense…increased community awareness.

For additional information by phone contact: Stephen "Red" Delasbour or Stephanie Nash in Promotions at Radio One Inc.'s KBFB 97.9 The Beat at (972) 331.5418 or electronically at sdelasbour@radio-one.com or snash@radio-one.com # # #

Due to limited seating at our Studios we will post the Inaugural TEEN VIOLENCE Town Hall Meeting on our new websites for the general public to request "In Studio" passes….

If you would like to be apart of this meeting sign up here.

www.thebeatdfw.com

A Pleasant Repost...

2009-11-11T18:09:00.001-06:00

Don't want to leave you too long without an enjoyable update... so here's one of my oldies but goodies. :)

Revelation

I do not smile because I am constantly happy. I am constantly happy because I smile.

Or should I be discouraged by the lows and overtaken by my woes

Without a doubt, in pursuing that route...In my soul, pure discontentment would I rile.

I do not love because my heart is full, my heart is full because I love.

Or should I allow the pessimism of man to control the generosity of my spirit

Mirroring emotional suicide...too substandard to endure, too disastrous to speak of....

To smile in spite of pain exemplifies an distinctive, impenetrable inner peace.

To love in place of hate magnifies Hope, that encouraging level of optimism we should all aspire to reach

I live to hope ....committed to produce

in this I shall never tire

I produce to liberate ...consistent in my release

eager to successfully Inspire.

My Life is not rewarding because I have things, My Life is rewarding because I have dreams.

Until Next Time...
D.D. Walker

The Back Door Comedy Club: with Curtis Savage

2009-10-22T00:24:00.004-05:00

Location: The Doubletree Hotel

8250 N. Central Expressway Dallas, TX
Tel: 1-214-691-8700
Venue: The Back Door Comedy Club
Comedian: Curtis Savage

When I first arrived at the Doubletree Hotel last Thursday night, I was pleasantly surprised by the amount of space and parking available. I thought for sure I would be able to zip right into a spot right by the door and hop from car to curbside. It was not so. After expectantly patrolling one end of the lot to the other, I decided...or had no choice, whichever phrase you prefer, to settle for one of the empty spaces way out in B.F.E. (Bum Freaking Egypt...). Anyhow, at least the cool wind that greeted me was step up from the make-up melting heat I baked in standing outside the Oscar Fierro Boutique during Fashion Week!

S0, after stiletto skipping across the parking lot, I made it into the warmth of the hotel. Very nice! I was welcomed by plush carpet, friendly workers, and a nice touch screen panel to help me find my way around the hotel. Fortunately for me, the comedy club wasn’t hard to find at all. It was buried behind the bar area, which surprisingly for a Thursday, had a really nice crowd.

The Back Door comedy club wasn’t overly spacious either, but it did provide a nice, intimate yet comfortable environment to listen to some interesting acts. What makes an impromptu night out even better? Of course, cheap admission! Apparently, Thursday nights at this particular comedy club is half price. So with a mere seven bucks, I was in and ready to get my laugh on! Besides, if things became a little too bland for you, it was perfectly acceptable to walk out and hang out at the bar for awhile. There was no charge for re-entry.

Providing variety, there were several comics showcased that night. Some were unbelievably dull while several others actually pulled a few chuckles from me. Comedy is truly in the eye/ear of the beholder, and luckily for new comedian Curtis Savage, the audience beheld nothing but pure talent. You are always a bit apprehensive about sharing someone’s inaugural stage experience. But this fresh, new talent delivered far more than what was expected.

Known for his comedic personality and contagious charisma, Mr. Savage had friends and family sitting on the edges of their seats with anticipation. Bursting into screaming applause before he could even situate himself on stage, one could only imagine the state of his nerves having his first comedy show in front of so many outspoken personalities. However, after his first few playful lines were amusingly delivered with ease, it was apparent that Curtis would not only win over the funny bones of those that came to support him, but also the patrons who had never seen his face before that night.

His act was filled with side-splitting references to real life situations ranging from financial hardships to fake hair! The semantics and showmanship literally had people rolling in the aisles with laughter. As a matter of fact, the show was SO hilarious he was invited back for a second showcase!

From what I personally had the pleasure of seeing, I strongly believe that as long as newcomer, Curtis Savage, remains as consistent as he is funny and continues to work on perfecting his craft, he will have a flourishing career as a successful and well sought-after comedian.

Check out his next show on October 29th at the Back Door Comedy club inside the Doubletree Hotel!

Until Next Time...

D.D. Walker

http://www.penmyworld.com/

The Back Door Comedy Club: with comedian Curtis Savage

2009-10-16T06:02:00.001-05:00

POST NOTICE:
Please check back soon, VERY soon, for the latest PMW photos and review from The Back Door Comedy club inside the Doubletree Hotel in Dallas, Tx. You don't want to miss it!

Dallas comedian, Curtis Savage

Dallas Urban Fashion Week: Review and Photos

2009-10-11T21:48:00.001-05:00

Ok! So here we are. I have finally completed my review of this year's Dallas Urban Fashion Week. For being off schedule, I extend my deepest apologies. But I am back, recharged and ready to make it happen! (smile) This recap will be a brief summary of the events that I attended along with additional links for more detailed information.

For all those that have NO idea what a Fashion Week is...briefly, let me catch you up to speed (Bear with me all you savoir-faire fashion connoisseurs! There may be others not quite as Stylistically Sophisticated as yourself! :))

Click below for more information on the conception and evolution of Urban Fashion Week

http://www.theurbanfashionweek.com/

http://www.ufwglobalnetwork.com/

I don't want to unnaturally lengthen this post or bore you with technical information, but it's important for me to highlight all those significant factors that may have gone unnoticed or under-appreciated during UFW. Of course the Models were beautiful, the garments were impressive and the venues were aesthetically appealing...but none of that would even matter if the coordination behind the scenes lacked professionalism and proficiency, which thankfully, it did not.

From the purchase of the All Access Passes to the conclusion of the week's final event, every part of My experience, except one, went smoothly. The only thing that I would have LOVED to have experienced differently was the fashion show at the Oscar Fierro Boutique. Sold out is an understatement. Not only were people spilling out into the entrance walkway of the store, they were standing up on chairs outside just to get a glimpse of the models and designs.

Honestly, even THAT wouldn't have ruffled my feathers had it not been so dang hot! After a few shots and handshakes, I had to call it a day. Besides, its not like it was the venue's fault. Who would have predicted how overwhelmingly fabulous the event would have turned out to be! What this experience taught me - Get my fashionably late behind there sooner! I could not fathom networking with another person while trying not to notice the sweat rolling down the center of my back. With that minor annoyance aside, I was extremely pleased with this year's UFW. The people, both event hosts and guests, were all refreshingly outgoing and approachable. Of course, this was a delicious plus for me considering how extroverted I am! I really enjoyed being able to meet and greet while actively observing each event. I wasn’t able to be present at everything on the itinerary but the events I did attend were the Strut for a Cause Fashion show at the Oscar Fierro Boutique, the show reception and after party held at Chauncer's, and the Rooftop Fashion Appreciation party at Fuse Restaurant and Lounge. The fashion, food, drinks, settings and even the after parties were fresh, fun and trendy. My internal Cinderella prevented me from staying out too late, (that and the fact that I also hold a full time job, attend school and have 2 children) so I did not enjoy the festivities till the wee hours of the morning. But I participated long enough to bring you an accurate account of exactly how HOT this whole deal actually was. Due to the caliber of style and class that it exhibited, I will definitely make this event an annual practice for PenMyWorld as well as a consistent highlight in my upcoming online lifestyle website, RhymesandReason.com (A Unique Fusion of Distinct Style)

Check out the extras provided for you below!

Below you will find a detailed list of each sponsor. Please click each name to be directed to their individual websites.

UFW, Millennium Jaguar, Alima Industries, G-Star, The Model Concierge, DMG Management, Nightlifelink.com, Sound Guy Studios, F.A.M.E Festival, Girlsdotalk, Texas Paragon Group, Off The Grid, Digibees, Krave Magazine, Van G Marketing, Speaklife Foundation, Goree Ent, Capitol Records, Positive Xchange, Troop, PZI, Nuvo, NGO Limit Production, Unik Marketing

Until Next time

D.D. Walker

Dallas Urban Fashion Week

2009-09-14T15:40:00.001-05:00

Oh be still my heart! :)

Dallas Urban Fashion Week starts this Wednesday. I am BEYOND stoked.
From fabulous hair to show stopping fashions, it is about to be ON!
There is a full schedule of events starting this week through
Sunday... Can't guarantee that I can bring you details from Each one,
but I will do my best!

I went to this wonderful Fashion show at the Nylo Hotel in Plano,Tx a
couple of Sundays ago... Excellent production. Everything from the
lighting to the liquor was perfect. Not to mention the incredibly
beautiful people swarming the grounds. Alas... I am still waiting for
some info from the coordinator before I post a professional review of
that event. Hopefully, it will be soon! :)

But moving on to Fashion Week. HOT. and I can't wait!

So... Stay tuned for photos, personal event reviews and hopefully, an
interview or two! All from My Perspective.:)

Last but not least, thank you for being SO patient with the launch of
the new site, PenMyWorld. I've been running into a lot of creative
snags... And it must be Right. I will let you experience nothing less!

Alright Fashion Week! Bring it on! :)

(hmmm, looks like I'm going to have to go shopping...:)

2009-08-28T11:18:00.003-05:00

I am sitting here in the parking lot of Starbucks on my lunch break.

My windows are down...sunroof is back...and the breeze has FINALLY gotten it right. I don't even want to go back. But who ever does once you feel that taste of freedom during that coveted 60 minute tease.

My website has, once again, been placed under renovation. I started running into ALL types of problems with content, loading viewable videos, space...but all is well. Sometimes, you have to accept that maybe even the negative things aren't so negative if the end result is you being in a better place, or a better position. Maybe right NOW isn't the right time for Pen My World to hit the waves. Perhaps God has a better plan for my idea... I will let him take the wheel. :) But I will continue to work diligently on it as well as continue to recruit for content. All will work out as it should.

School started on Monday. My purchased books still have not gotten here. Well, ONE is here...but the other 2 are just as important. My fourth book isn't needed till October! (yay!) So what am I taking? Sociology, Cultural Studies...(I believe the culture this year is Caribbean), Art Appreciation, and History. One of my majors is Sociology, so I am really looking forward to this introductory class. So as of today, being Friday...I still only have one book. That's OK. I will still make it "do what it do". (laugh)

I am an emotional, chaotic, mess right now for more reasons that one. But somewhere, way down deep inside this organized confusion I call a Life....I feel strong. I feel secure. I feel safe and confident.

Even though I don't know what tomorrow will bring, I know I will have all that I need to handle it. Good or otherwise.

God Bless you all...talk to you soon!

(P.S. How about I let you into my life a little? Stay tuned. I will post some recent photos complete with captions here soon. See whats on the other side of my pen...(laugh again! )

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Get it done

2009-08-09T16:05:00.002-05:00

My Goodness.

I have some serious deadlines bearing down on me. Looks like my nights are about to become several hours shorter. Like my husband told me the other night,

"You need to make sure you keep an -I'll sleep when I die- type attitude."

That's real.
I mean, as tired as I become sometimes...isn't my ultimate goal more important? I think so. :)

So I'm going to make this blog post short and sweet.
I have a LIST of things that I need to take care of tonight. I shall not procrastinate a day longer...

Until Next Time...
DaniC

The Good Samaritan

2009-08-03T01:57:00.005-05:00

The following blog post is actually a short story. I hope you enjoy it and please, feel free to leave your comments! All are appreciated!

THE GOOD SAMARITAN

“Crap!” Traci muttered to herself. Her beat up Honda Civic greeted her with a bright red Low Fuel light as soon as she cranked it up. “This is just what I need right now, An empty tank and no money.” Frustrated and tired, she pulled her car into the nearest gas station. Looking at the price per gallon, Traci considered getting out and leaving the car sitting right there.
She grabbed her wallet...6 bucks and some change, 32 cents to be exact. She rummaged through her glove compartment and cup holders, another 87 cents makes its way to the gas fund.
“Alright, So far, so good.” Tracy thought to herself. “Seven bucks should get me to class and home. I’ll worry about tomorrow when it gets here.”
Opening her car door, she absentmindedly touched the locket hanging from her neck. Inside it was a picture of her grandmother. Their relationship was beyond close, it was more...epic. She was the one that took Traci in at the age of 9 when her mother was found dead from a heroin overdose. Even though she was well up in age, that didn’t stop her from giving all she had to make sure Traci never went without.
“Child, the only thing you need to worry about is church and school. Get them prayers and them studies right and let me worry about the rest.” Her grandmother used to say. And that is exactly what Traci did. She studied hard, and prayed harder. Finishing the top her of class, she was granted a 4 year academic scholarship. Nothing made her granny more proud than watching her baby walk across the stage. But the excitement of that moment was short-lived by her sudden death. Traci’s grandmother passed from a heart attack in her sleep the night after she attended her granddaughter’s ceremony. She shook herself free from those painful memories and looked over in the passenger seat at her future, her pre-med textbooks. The traumatic loss of her rock caused her to focus on her classes and her bible, even harder. She had to make it, no matter what.
She gathered all her change and headed into the gas station to pay. It was so hot outside you could have fried an egg in the shade. This is exactly what Traci was thinking when she said thank you to the man that politely held the door open for her. She couldn’t help but wonder if he felt like he was suffocating in that designer 3 piece suit he wore. Even though he came into the store after her, she somehow ended up behind him in line. As she checked out the expensive clothing, the top dollar shoes and the Italian leather wallet, Traci knew he would be putting allot more than 7 bucks in his car. She sighed to herself, “One day...”
Seeing his turn in line approaching, the man opened his wallet and pulled out his credit card. A single, folded 50 dollar bill fell out and landed inches away from Traci’s foot. She looked around to see if anyone else had noticed, they hadn’t. Moving forward, she quickly bent down, snatched the bill off the floor and stuffed it into her pocket. Handing the 7 bucks to the cashier, she headed back out to her car. Passing the man sitting in his car, Traci started to feel uneasy. Sure she took the money, but she wasn’t a thief! He dropped it and walked off. That makes it all fair game, right?
She tossed this question back and forth in her head before making the gut wrenching decision to give the money back. As much as that 50 bucks would bless her situation, she decided that it just didn’t feel right to keep it knowing who it belonged to.
"Hey,“ she pep talked herself out loud, “I know who I serve. I don’t have to take from someone else.” Opening her door again, Traci headed over to the man still sitting in his car browsing through a newspaper to deliver her confession.
She motioned for him to let his window down.
“Excuse me sir. If I could speak to you for one moment.” she respectfully asked.
“Of course you can young lady.” He exclaimed. His face colored with curiosity as to why this woman was approaching him.
“Well, to be honest, I have something that belongs to you. You see, when you were in line you dropped this money.” She pulled the bill out of her pocket and handed it to him. “I acted on impulse and kept it. For that I apologize.” After finishing her poorly rehearsed speech, Traci turned on her heel and hurriedly headed back to her car.
The man stared after her in utter astonishment. Never had he ever seen such a genuine act of honesty in a person. He didn’t know how to react; she walked away so quickly he didn’t even have time to say thank you. So he did the next best thing.

He wrote down her license plate.

A few days later, as Traci sat in her kitchen studying for an upcoming exam. She heard a knock at the door. Not expecting company, she inquisitively peeked out her side window to see who had popped up without calling.
“FedEx? They must have the wrong apartment.” Traci mumbled as she opened her door.
“Yes? How can I help you?” she asked the carrier.
“I have a certified letter for a Traci Johnson. Just need you to sign here ma’am.” Traci did as she was instructed and took the package. Closing the door she ripped the thick envelope open and pulled out a letter along with a smaller envelope with her name typed on the front. As Traci scanned the letter, her heart stopped. Then started beating out of her chest.

Dear Traci Johnson

My name is Thomas Whitfield, CEO of Whitfield Technologies.
Several days ago, you returned to me a 50 dollar bill. For that wonderfully, refreshing good deed, I never got the opportunity to say Thank You. Too often in life we see such selfish acts that proper moral decisions like the one you made go unnoticed, and unrewarded.
Due to your hasty retreat, I was forced to utilize my resources to track you down so that I could personally extend my thanks for your kindness and honesty. Enclosed with this letter, you will find a cashier’s check. This is my way of saying Thank you for restoring my belief in the good of mankind. I do not know what your plans or goals may be, but it is my sincerest hope that this gift will help you along your way.

Never stop doing what is right. You never know who you will affect.

Sincerely,
T. Whitfield

Not even knowing the amount, Traci opened the second envelope with tears streaming down her face. She fell to her knees screaming and shaking. The whole room started spinning and everything fell out of focus but the check she held in her trembling hands.

Pay to the order of Traci Johnson...In the amount of $25,000.00

*Remember, nothing that we can do for ourselves will ever top what God can do for us if we let Him.*

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Still not done yet...

2009-08-01T21:13:00.003-05:00

I Promise you I am almost finished with this short story. I just have some final editing to do. Every time I think I'm about to get it done...I get distracted. Just bear with me...

Today was interesting...very.
I went and got my hair cut. Not trimmed...CUT. I lost about 4 inches. I was nervous as Hades the entire time she was cutting. But I must say, I REALLY like it! My head feels so light and now I can start over with a head of healthy hair. Every dead end has been removed and the results are banging! It was beyond time for a change, I'm almost 27 and have never changed my hairstyle. lol!

Then as I was leaving...it starts raining. Wow.

By the time I got home, I ended up looking like a Chia Pet. (sad face...)
But after some emergency bathroom maintenance...I was ready to post my post-cut pics on Facebook for the world to see! LOL

Well, off I go...just wanted to share a piece of my day with you all. Time to put in more work on this site. Have a good night!

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Keeping You in the Loop...

2009-07-31T09:35:00.001-05:00

“It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood…a beautiful day in the neighborhood! Will you be mine? Will you be mine? Won’t you be my neighbor?! ”

Please don’t tell me that you don’t remember Mr. Rodger’s Neighborhood? I loved that show…that, and Lamb Chops Play-a-long. Or was it Sing-a-long…Hmmmm

Anyhow, that was NOT my blog topic for today. LOL! I just wrote it before I realized it. Guess that’s what happens when you write while sorting through random thoughts.

So what do I have in store for you today? I decided to compose a quick short story, still working on it actually. I have had quite a few narratives cramming up my brain space, so what better way to make room than with a little mental spring cleaning! I should have it posted before the end of the day….cross your fingers, and toes. J

I have noticed that my Blog has several pieces of poetry and formal articles that I have written in the archives. Thought I should let you know that once PenMyWorld.com is up and running, all of THOSE writings will be taken down and placed on the NEW site in the appropriate sections. I want my blog to ONLY contain my PERSONAL musings…Nothing formal, just a place where you can get a real feel of who I am and what may be in my head during those random moments. The new site should be out really soon guys and gals, thanks for your patience! I promise you it will be WELL worth the wait. I plan to work with an AWESOME group of writers (still recruiting!) who will contribute excellent content for your viewing pleasure! (You like that right! LOL)

So what else has been going on in my world? Welllllll, school is about to start (Aug. 25^th…back to the grind). I’ve finally submitted my closing degree plan (hopefully). I am working on my Masters, double majoring in Journalism: Public Relations and Sociology. Plenty of hard work ahead…. I also FINALLY finished the design for my business cards last night; they should be here any day now! (Really have to get the new site finished since its plastered all over the cards, ha!)

You know, I really hate to stop blogging right now. This is such a relaxing release for me…but alas, I must. There is MUCH work to be done and as we all know…Time waits for no one!

Stay tuned for the short story: The Good Samaritan

Your Reality...My Reality

2009-07-21T22:48:00.004-05:00

I am a reality show nut.

I really can just sit in my spare moments and watch someone else living through their individual realities...or, as much of their reality that they are willing to let you see.
I honestly don't know what it is about these type of shows that appeal to my senses. Perhaps its the "real" situations that I get to see "real" people experience...the drama, the comedy, the romance. Staged or not...I can dig it for what its worth, entertainment.

Now, in reference to my filter...lol...
I am pretty eclectic in my show preferences. But there are a few that I would not watch even if that was the ONLY channel my television could tune into at that time. Shows like: For the Love of RayJ, Flavor of Love, Charm School...Negative. No offense to those that may enjoy watching Flavor Flav and Ray J shamelessly search for the temporary loves of their lives...but I just can't seem to get into it. Anything else from The Real World to The Biggest Loser...I'm your girl. I've even gotten my husband to tune in every now and then! :)

You know what? I wonder why they don't have a reality show about a Christian's genuine struggle to do right? The trials and victories in a person's lifelong journey to stay close to God. Hmmm, They could call it something like...The Straight and Narrow. Yeah, I like that. (Don't go stealing my idea...this post IS date stamped! LOL)

Well, I was just thinking about that...among other things. So I decided to blog for a bit. Nothing serious, just a random thought of mine. Getting ready to work on my site before I head to bed. (have an early day tomorrow.)
I always seem to have the most energy the night before my earliest morning.

well...Goodnight!
Blog ya tomorrow :)

Until Next Time...
DaniC

How about a quickie?

2009-07-20T15:51:00.003-05:00

I decided to stop into my local Starbucks and write a quick blog update. Get it? A "quickie"! (get your minds out the gutter...lol)
But that local Starbucks was crowed, at 4:30...so I had to come to another one. Still crowded...but just enough space for me.

I hope everyone is having a marvellous Monday! I know it gets really hard to remain consistently productive when things have become redundant...or maybe your efforts seem to be presently yielding no reward. But trust me, its all for the best. So what do you do when you just don't FEEL like it anymore? You stop...pray...then revisit your original reasons for wanting to start in the first place. Sometimes...the anticipation of what you hope to achieve will overshadow the sacrifices needed to get there. I have to constantly fight this battle within myself, but I shall not falter! (smile)

You know, It really took me awhile to figure out what I even wanted to do with my life. I mean, I knew I had certain gifts...as we all do. But nothing really jumped out at me as if to say, "This is your Destiny.." After many frustrating failed attempts at forcing Fate...I decided to stop searching. I stopped LOOKING for a reason to justify my existence, and simply started living. I started living knowing that whatever I am supposed to do with my life...whatever life I am supposed to touch, will all happen the way and in the time it is supposed to. I must simply condition myself daily to handle that day when I am blessed to see it.

I started appreciating just being able to get up in the morning with the ability to move the fingers I hoped to one day compose a novel with. (laughing) I took a step back, evaluated the things that I actually enjoy doing...and decided to work at perfecting it. If God blesses you with a gift, you treasure it...nurture it...protect it. And that is what I shall do.

So when the time comes...for my position in the literary world to be elevated. I will be able to look back and know that I worked hard, stayed humble and remained patient. I will be able to step in o my destiny, whatever that may be...and know that where I am is right where I need to be.

May all your hopes and dreams come to pass...

Until Next Time...
DaniC

12:05...

2009-07-20T00:05:00.003-05:00

I'm up...should be asleep. But I have allot on my mind.
No, nothing bad. Actually, I've just been bombarded by my own creativity. And that is a VERY good thing. (smile) There are so many concepts and ideas floating around in my head...I can barely concentrate on...well, concentrating! :)

So its 12:05...and I'm up. Writing and thinking.

I have my other website...which I am diligently working on completing. Then there is my baby. My Blog. (smile) We can't forget that school is starting back up on the 24th of August, which will be additional brain power I will have to tap into. HA!
I am really excited though. I really do love school...it's hard, especially working full time and having a family. But it is SO exhilarating to submerge yourself in the progress of self improvement. The feeling of accomplishment as you learn and retain. Ahh, yes...I love it. Of course during all of this scheduled chaos, I will also continue my creative writing.

I have a few poems brewing...no where near completion but they'll see the light soon.
I also couldn't help but start a couple of short stories...the characters kept charging through my mind like a controlled stampede. I had to release some of that creative pressure before I short circuited! LOL
Then there is my book. My first novel. I am so far from being done...I don't think I can actually legally call it a book yet...(really laughing now...) I seem to be erasing as much as I write. (frustrated now...just a little)

But I know all will work out JUST fine. I'm not rushing at all because the more time I take to perfect my craft, the better quality of a product I can deliver. Good time management and reasonable goals is all I need to make it! (well that...plenty of hard work and GOD's blessing!)
I feel good guys and gals, real good. I am relaxed, recharged and ready to take on another round. :)

It's now 12:35....perhaps I should go to bed now. I'd like to try to start my Monday off without any unnecessary grocery bags under my eyes! :)

Love, Peace and Understanding to each of you
Goodnight....

Until Next Time...
DaniC

B.F.F.

2009-07-18T10:25:00.003-05:00

I love Texas. Especially the weather.... (slightly tinted with sarcasm, smile!) These days are long and hot...and I mean HOT. And the nights are warm and humid. Hopefully, ( as I look at the clouds darkening the sky as I type) it will rain today to cool things off a bit. I saw a drop or two...but no more since. HA!

So Today (as soon as I get off work...HEAT and all!) I will be hanging out for a spell with my Best Friend. She is truly that...my best friend. We have known each other since we were in the 9th grade. I remember the first time we met...she came up to me at my locker and just started talking to me right out the blue! She said she thought I was an African....(cracking up)

Not that there is ONE thing wrong with being or looking African, I just had never heard that before and more importantly...I'm not African. She later told me it was my cheek bones that gave me an exotic look, so she figured I was a foreigner. We have been thick as thieves ever since.

Oh we have DEFINITELY had MORE than our share of ups and downs...we have even gone gaps, long gaps, without even seeing or talking to each other. But after this last time of reuniting, we both recognized how much the other had matured and grown. This type of mutual growth was necessary before we could actually cultivate and nurture the type of friendship...no, Relationship, that we really desired. Thankfully, we never "broke up" to the point where there was animosity...we merely withdrew into our own individual worlds during the times where our very different lives just didn't seem to... Fuse. We always did know how to step back before things became damaged beyond repair.....

So now, we have this unspoken weekly ritual where we spend one day relaxing and talking, just us girls. Usually...A Saturday when Hubby can stay home with the kiddos (Bless his heart and soul for that!) I really appreciate that time!

Anyhow...enough of that.

The point of this post is this: It is a blessing to have even ONE good and genuine relationship in your Life. ( I have been blessed with 2, Thank God for my husband) We all are flawed and bound to make mistakes, but it is in forgiveness and personal acknowledgement of your OWN faults that ultimately result in the growth of Character, Strength and Wisdom. As we diligently work to progress and improve ourselves, understand that others are on that same journey. Do not expect perfection from anyone that you cannot deliver perfection to. My best friend and I have learned that lesson along with many more...each one strengthening our individual roles in OUR connection as well as the other important relationships we covet.

Until Next time....

DaniC

Get it together Woman!

2009-07-15T15:15:00.002-05:00

I’m Baaaaack.

You miss me?

Well…that’s neither here nor there because I missed being here. I don’t believe that I have done one ounce of writing since I last posted. All I have been doing is, well…nothing. Nothing besides spending some much needed quality time with family, friends and of course Me. (so I guess that “nothing” is actually a very significant “something”, lol) You can get so wrapped up in your own chaos, you forget the importance of the little quiet moments….the peace from total relaxation J

My main problem is lack of organization. Even in my thoughts….

Besides the 24 hour task of being a Mother and a Wife, I always have a million things going at once in my head. They crash together and before I know it…I’ve short circuited.

I have ideas that spawn better ideas….Stories that generate sequels…various publications I constantly submit to…working on my first novel…creative writing to produce content for the new site…WORKING on the new site’s graphics… (deep breath…)

And now school is about to start again.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not complaining in ANY way about these classes…I mean, really…I am totally stoked to be ABLE to go back to school at almost 27 years old so that I can begin the next phase of my life. What was once said to be impossible is now unfolding before my very eyes. I can’t do anything but appreciate that.

Plus, the classes I will be taking this semester seem to be quite interesting….Cultural Studies- History- Art Appreciation- Sociology

Not bad huh? (Smile)… So with me working and going to school full time…in addition to all my other necessary life tasks, I think it is time for me to become more systematic. Perhaps I should work on a schedule…you know, class work this day…writing time that day, etc. Just to keep my thoughts and progression organized. We shall see!

So all in all, my loyal readers, everything in my world is A-OK! (winking) lol

I’m just getting myself back in the groove of juggling my personal life, my career and the classroom.

But I can’t expect to become a well known and respected writer if I don’t put in the work! Now can I?!

Will you miss me?

2009-06-30T22:49:00.002-05:00

This is a Public Service Announcement. lol

I will not be posting any updates on my blog for the next 2 weeks.
There are some things that require 100% of my focus and attention...even the little spare minutes here and there...So...in order to limit the amount of guilt I will feel for neglecting my beloved blog (and of course, my readers)...I decided to let you know BEFORE hand :)

Off I go for my brief hiatus...and believe me, should I become overwhelmed with the need to write...this blog shall be the first place my words will land.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

There are No Words...

2009-06-25T23:01:00.003-05:00

Normally I have plenty to say.
Give me a subject...a topic...anything, and I will go for days. But not today...today is a day of worldwide mourning.

A day of intense loss and overwhelming sadness.

Today we lost our King of Pop...the Inspiration for our generation and many to come...The Icon of Individualism and Style.

Rest in Peace, Michael Jackson.
May God give your family and fans the strength and understanding to get through your passing.

You are loved...and your Legacy will always be cherished.

This is my moment of silence for you....

.....................

Until Next Time...
DaniC

2 Down...16 More to go!

2009-06-18T22:26:00.010-05:00

Happy Birthday to you...

Happy Birthday, dear Mattie!...

(smile)...Today is my daughter's 2nd birthday. That time went by like the light rail. She is actually strapping her Stride Rites tight, getting ready for her debut into the Terrible Twos.

I remember getting pregnant.

I remember the baby showers.

I remember going into labor and my husband dang near falling out of the bed trying to get to me. (smile again)

I remember my super easy labor...

And then...she was here.

6 lbs of pure dimpled goodness.

No, this was not my first time experiencing child birth. We also have a 9 year old (going on 20...but that's another post in itself).

But this was my first time bringing a child into this world with a full support system behind me. It felt wonderful. Allow me to throw sprinkles on the icing on the cake by adding that this was my husbands FIRST child. That turned a wonderful experience into a landmark event. She is truly a blessing. I am so fortunate to have them both! :)

Babies...Humanity at our Purest Form...

All of a sudden...the time just hit fast forward. I looked up after a diaper change...and she was already ONE!

Then she started eating regular food...got off of baby formula...started forming words...

then she started walking...

That too...is another blog post within itself. My GOODNESS they can get into allot of stuff!

So here we are...many milestones later. Walking AND running (yay me...lol), eating right off the table, and TALKING like you wouldn't believe. Even though I have experienced these mini-graduations before...each time seems more precious than the last.

Now, Little Miss Matisyn (oh yeah...didn't tell you her name did I?) has reached another milestone...her 2nd Birthday.

And BOY was she excited!

I tell you...Life is truly precious and sacred. You may only get one Life to live...but you have MANY lives that you can affect each day. Namely, those babies that are placed within our womb to nurture, protect, and guide into a productive and positive adulthood. Choose your words, actions and reactions very wisely...you never know what ripple effect they may cause.

There I go...off on a tangent again (as usual). lol But hey! It was all in good intent...I was moved to speak, or...rather write! (smiling again...lol). I thank you, my loyal readers, for humoring me by taking a couple of minutes to share a little piece of this special day...

The day I became a mother for the second time.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Hot Girl

2009-06-17T11:53:00.000-05:00

Hot girl.

Young girl.

I see you.

Head up, doing your thang...

Rockin' fresh French tips, with the cherry red lips...

Got hips that rock and swang.

Young girl.

Hot girl.

I feel you.

Ain't nothing about this new.

Flipping hair and batting eyes, falling prey to the prettiest lies.

While it may sound good, that don't make it true.

Young girl,

Look girl.

I accept you...

On this decaying prowl for excitement.

You are not worthless, or useless, or hopeless.

Just unhappily naive and misguided.

Stop girl.

Hear me girl.

I Know you...

Not long ago...I shared your place.

Stop searching for validation in the arms of deception.

For your most sacred gift can never be replaced.

Young girl,

God's Girl.

I love you.

Grant me your ear and listen close.

To give It up now, without the protection of a Vow

will be the one thing you regret the most.

D.D.Carraway

*We must come together to love, guide and teach our young girls the power of possessing self-confidence, intelligence and good judgment. We so often write these young ladies off as insignificant. God would not have created them if this were so. Take the time to teach what you know, share what you have experienced that encouraged your own growth...and above all, be careful not to judge. Help, Support, Educate, Guide...but most of all Pray for our sisters (young and old) who are still on their shaky paths of self-discovery. Remember it is only your duty to plant the seed, not to judge the soil in which it is placed. God Bless you All *

I AM...

2009-06-16T19:33:00.003-05:00

I am fury. I am resentment.

I am Anger…

I am tranquility. I am serenity.

I am Peace.

I am this. I am that.

I am all that is in between.

I am simple…yet so complicated.

A Commoner, yet still a Queen.

I am obsession. I am excitement.

I am Passion...

I am careless. I am detached.

I am Indifferent.

There is turmoil within my balance.

A consistent contradiction, I know.

Appalled at stagnation, yet somehow, Afraid to grow.

I am Ignorance.

I am Wisdom.

I am Courage.

I am Fear.

I am a beautiful melody of emotions, composed only for your heart’s ear.

As I attempt this unraveling of the impossible

A feat that only time can complete.

As sure as I am that warmth is given by the Sun….

I am Me.

I am you.

We are one.

D.D. Walker

Sunday, my Fun day...

2009-06-14T18:22:00.003-05:00

Sundays can really be fun.

Especially for me because my definition of fun may be a little different. Or, maybe not! :) You see, I don't necessarily have to be out and about...pounding the pavement, leaving no stone unturned on a mission for continuous entertainment. I find its QUITE exhilarating to do...absolutely nothing. (smile)

Or if nothing is too far fetched for you, doing a "something" that is TOTALLY at your choosing will have to do. (not a thing wrong with the need for productivity.)
So as I sit here updating my blog...you can see how someones "nothing" can indeed actually be a "something"...oh my, I do believe I'm going off on a tangent. (forgive me...where was I...)

Oh, yes...doing nothing for fun.
So my point was this: to actually have time completely your own, to do what you will...as you will, is sometimes best spent doing nothing. Nothing except recharging that very necessary part of you. Your soul.

Focus on yourself. Pray. Relax and Let go (even if temporarily) off all the stress, tensions, distractions and subtractions that you may have endured up until that point. Submerge yourself entirely in what entertains you truly. Eat well, take a nap, go eat an ice cream cone at the park...(ok...so I'm free styling here, but you get my point) Concentrate on the positives I'm sure each of your lives MUST contain... I mean, simply BEING alive to Experience and Feel is a positive within itself. Take time for YOU. Selfish time. Why not? Especially if the rest of your time is spent living selflessly?

For you to be the best that you can be...You have to know that you are not infallible. Even the best must rest (smile again)

So, this was my blog update today. (perhaps I'll even create more poetry this evening...) But for now, My sharing with you all of how I am presently feeling is more than sufficient. I find great fun in the rehabilitation that relaxation can bring. I am relaxing right now (feet up, root beer float to my right, DVR remote to my left, lol) and there is no better place for me to be right now.

well...I wouldn't mind being in a car headed to Austin to cash in on a winning lottery ticket...
now THAT'S some relaxation right there... (laughing...)

Until Next Time...
DaniC

What a storm...

2009-06-11T21:00:00.002-05:00

Today it stormed like a scene out of Twister.

I had to work...and I happen to work in a practically ALL glass building. Well, perhaps that's a bit of an exaggeration. But there are a Tremendous amount of windows in my building...and on my particular floor, Im surrounded by them. Not a comfort in the least bit today...that's for sure.

My drive to work was drama-free, thankfully. However, once I reached the safety of those walls...and windows, the heavens opened up in all its dramatic glory.

The sky began to darken.
The storm clouds were constantly illuminated by the repetitive slices of lightening.
Thunder so loud, it caused your pulse to quicken.
And the rain...wow. It rained like this was the last time Earth would ever receive precipitation. (OK, so we've reached another exaggeration...but it REALLY was raining extremely hard..smile)
Umbrella, hats, raincoats, boots...nothing protected you from being soaked to the bone if you had to step out for even 10 seconds. It actually seemed as if the water was coming from all directions at once.

And those windows.

On top of being 9 stories up on a floor completely surrounded by large windows...the lights and computers kept going on and off. How unsettling is that? I swear every drop of rain that hit those windows seemed like it was going to shatter the glass like a natural explosion.

But right before my day ended...as I made my preparations to brave that unyielding weather, the storm passed.
Yep, It started right after I made it in...and stopped right before I got off.
How many times has that bit of luck just fallen in your lap? (smile again)

I must say...today, although wet and at times...nerve wracking, turned out to be a beautifully choreographed day!

So I leave you all tonight once again in great spirits. Don't worry...I'll have something special for you tomorrow!
Remember: No matter how traumatic your storm, it too...must pass. Focus on the brighter days that inevitably lie ahead.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Love

2009-06-10T22:56:00.006-05:00

Love...
So simple, yet so complex
So unforgiving, yet so nurturing

It seizes as it grants.
An unpredictable necessary,
missed where ever it is lacked.
Growth ceases in its absence.
Complacency increases in its presence.
Inflexible or Yielding,
An impact that varies with each encounter.
What it destroys, it is ideal for rebuilding.
How else can one describe Love?

DaniC 2009

Getting Started...

2009-06-10T21:09:00.003-05:00

I decided to take a break...from all my Internet social networking sites.

Tweeter...Facebook, etc.

Not for a long while, of course not. (smile) I love to socialize and connect with people from all over...people I would never have the opportunity to meet, well...without extensive not to mention expensive travel. :) Its always great to meet interesting, goal oriented people at the slide or press of a finger (depending on your phone type, lol) but at times...it can be a bit addictive. Distractingly so...

So, again...I decided to take a break. Just for a couple of days, to exercise my craft. My schedule hasn't been too busy lately, so I have been simply wallowing in the comfort of being able to do...nothing. (smile, again.) I must say, I am in no way complaining. I have come across some truly awesome people and businesses through Tweeter and Facebook. I have learned allot and made productive business contacts for my some of my future endeavors. But again...It can be addictive. So this is me more...prioritizing. Plus, and this is the good part... I've been touched.

Let me explain.
It seems My Muse, you know...that mystical guiding spirit, a source of pure inspiration (or so I read...) has graced my creativity with her presence. I woke up a couple of days ago almost overwhelmed with the desire to write. (that was the day I completed the previous poem, Plea to my Brother...) I have so many different short story ideas and book plots...poetry outlines and spoken word pieces flowing through my mind, I had to take a moment to Stop. Write it all down. Before I lose it. :)

Hence my need to redirect my focus. Ride this Inspirational Wave while its high. I guess this blog post was my mental way of warming up...stretching before the workout. Off I go now...I think I have a character waiting to come to life....

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Plea to My Brother...

2009-06-07T20:44:00.012-05:00

Its a shame, I know you're feeling it.

You're not to blame, although your thinking it

When You catch a bad wrap, for what another man lacks...

My Beautiful Brother, Don't give in.

You work so hard, evidence of this is apparent.

A Man apart, constantly going without acknowledgement

You handle your business, as God is my witness

My Beautiful Brother, This battle you shall win.

Learning to Live, many choices...some regrettable.

Learning to Love, a risk so rewarding, yet so unpredictable.

Do not give up, although the battle may get rough

My Beautiful Brother, how exquisite is your endurance.

As you Learn, you will Grow.

Inevitably, the proof will show

You are a King, simply waiting on your crown.

A Leader to the end.

A Father and a Friend

Your Courage can never be cut down

My Beautiful Brother, You are wise and you are strong.

My Beautiful Brother, I promise you it wont be long...

My Brother...OUR Brother...

your day of reckoning will soon come...

*This poem is for all the Dedicated yet incredibly Underappreciated Men that are so often lost in the worlds preoccupation with DeadBeat Fathers, Abusive Husbands and Repeat Felons. Though it is painfully obvious that all of the above exist. That is not ALL that deserves our attention. If we can acknowledge what Man is doing wrong, why not give a piece of that spotlight to the Man that is doing right?*

Bless you all and never forget your value

...you are cherished.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

People Watching....

2009-06-02T14:19:00.002-05:00

I am at work today.

Obviously, not working....but yet I'm still here.

Guess that's one of many parts of Life that require Mandatory attendance! (that is...if you plan on eating and paying a few bills in a timely fashion)

So my question to you, my faithful readers, is this:

Have you ever People Watched? I mean have you REALLY reserved moments, no matter how brief they may have been, to observe and retain everyday human interaction?

Truly educational...not to mention quite necessary.

Why do I feel People Watching is necessary?...well, perhaps the actual act of "watching" may be extreme for some (especially if you are not capable of doing so without being uncomfortably obvious, *smile*) How's...People Learning? There...much better...(don't want to lose you too soon)

Now, carrying on...

To Learn People, is to learn yourself. To Learn yourself is to nurture and maximize your growth, maturity and success. What are we 100% certain about? That we all are different. The extent of difference between 2 people can be extraordinary. Learning and respecting these differences, and similarities, can be a crucial building block in the foundation needed to bridge the inevitable gap we all will face one day...Communicating with another person outside of our comfort-social zone.

I watch a person's dress...mannerisms and gestures...facial expressions and tone. I pay attention to the way you stand, sit, even eat! Of course, the majority of this observational insanity is because I am a creative writer as well as a journalist. Think about it...in order for me to pull a reader into my story...for them to feel it, understand it...even taste it.. I have to be able to describe even the tiniest detail. Plus, I actually LOVE People. Everyone...the Good, the Bad, and the Oh-So-In-Between. I love people because they are the inspiration behind my characters. They are the motivation behind my hunger for knowledge. They are the contributors in many great conversations that I have had the privilege of participating in. They are the Teachers of many a hard lesson I have had to endure. It takes ALL types of cultures, races, religions, personalities, backgrounds, character strengths and weaknesses for the world to "go round". I choose to learn as much as I can because I realize there is so much TO learn... if I really plan on consistently and productively evolving.

So that, In an extra large nutshell, is why I People Watch. Its my second nature to be fascinated BY nature. And there is nothing more natural than humanity....no matter the flaws or shortcomings...

Today...try to notice one thing about another person...anything that you would have overlooked on any other day...You might surprise yourself at what you learn!

My Special Day...

2009-05-23T15:22:00.004-05:00

Today is my special day.

I have set this day aside...aside from every task and thought that likes to fill its seconds to the brim.

I am relaxed...I am calm...I am content.

As a matter of fact, my fingers almost feel like they are seperate from my body...the interpreters for the soothing thoughts flowing freely in my mind.

Ahhh, My feet are one with this coffee table. HA...I love it. I hope they can remain GREAT friends. :)

The terry cloth goodness surrounding me like a velvet shroud of heaven...is, well...Heaven! (oops...I think I just giggled!)

You see...I needed this little

(how did the commercial say it yesterday...)

Oh Yeah! DAY-cation.

( I wish I could rememeber what the commercial was about...)

We SO often get lost in the organized confusion we call our Lives. Sometimes its frustration...Often times it is Rewarding and Fulfilling...but still, we are so busy DOING it...we hardly ever get to stop and LIVE it.

So I said today...My special day..My Day-cation, will be the first of many reminders to Myself...

that Life is Beautiful.

Life is Predictably Unpredictable.

It is worth each smile and nutured by each tear.

I am thankful for each trial for they make me appreciate my blessings all the more...

You, each of my readers, are blessings. Have a wonderful Memorial Holiday!

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Epiphany

2009-05-08T20:18:00.003-05:00

The confusion my heart felt, tore my soul at the seams.
Like a poem ripped up in anger...
Because it failed to describe what I dream.

The discord deep inside repelled all thoughts of peace.
A raging battle between Hope and Dispair...
To the heavens did my weary hands reach.

I knew I could not bear it alone.
But Pride would not let me lean.
My shoulders burdened from the weight of my weakness...
My mind tormented from the pain I've seen.

After reaching my mental limit, a breaking point did I see.
I let go.
I trusted God.
Then something powerful was revealed to me.

Through the disappointment and the frustration,
I felt I would never be complete.
But God removed the smokescreen from my eyes...

And helped me realize...

The only thing holding me Down...was Me.

D.D. Carraway 2009
Until Next Time...
DaniC

2009-05-03T12:45:00.002-05:00

Today is a very hectic day for me...Im sitting here in Starbucks right now ATTEMPTING to work. Key word, attempting. My mind is so scattered, Im going 1000 miles a minute. If I could keep my thoughts as organized as I do my notebooks...I'd be unstoppable. :)

When I first decided to go back to school, I had no idea what I was getting into. What, with my working full time...being a wife and a mother...as well as taking full time classes, I almost reached the point where my brain short circuited. But alas, all is well again. Ive found a balance and Im hoping the effects of that balance will kick in QUICKLY.

So let me update you all on the website, PenMyWorld.com.
It should be rolling out in the next 30 days or so. Excited doesn't even begin to describe how I'm feeling about this roll out, especially since I am designing the website myself...but I will be keeping this site as my Personal Blog. I want my readers to still have a way to connect with me on that intimate level. PenMyWorld will be a site dedicated to the exhibition of my writings (articles, essays, reader responses, poetry and spoken word, short stories, etc) AS WELL AS the work of other aspiring or established writers. The site will take submissions, for free, that will be published within 24 hours including the contact information for that particular writer. (website, blog site, email, etc) My intent is to give those that visit P.M.W. the art of writing from a real and approachable perspective. Literary buffs will have a "one stop shop" for quality work from a variety of authors on just as many varying subjects. I will also have a section dedicated to charities, organizations, movements and individual people making a difference in varying aspects of our society. If anyone has work (can be previously written or published on your own sites) or an organization that you would like published on PenMyWorld, please submit that info to me as soon as I advise you the site is up and running. ALL submissions require NO fee, as this is a non-profit website. Each author retains all rights to their writings as well...this is more like an ADDITIONAL avenue to bring publicity to your individual work and websites.

I will be updating you soon! Thank you ALL for supporting me! I look forward to working with you very soon!

Until Next Time...
DaniC

The Debate of Immigration...what's YOUR take?

2009-04-26T21:55:00.008-05:00

In no way do I view immigrants as a threat to the U.S.

I view those immigrants (along with the natural born citizens of America) who steal, kill and destroy as the threat. There are those who frequently couple immigration with terrorism, that is understandable because if you allow over a million immigrants a year into ANY country, there are bound to be some mixed in that number that have negative intentions. However, just like all Blacks aren't uneducated, all whites are not racist and all Asians don't work in nail shops and one stop eateries...All immigrants are not linked with violence and laziness. We have plenty of homegrown domestic terrorism right here in the U.S. The United States deals with its share of violence, crime, homelessness, unemployment, etc....but even if you take away every single illegal immigrant in this country, we would STILL be dealing with those same problems. Of course I agree that If we hadn't let those particular immigrants into the U.S., there wouldn't have been a 9/11 tragedy. (at least not at that time, who knows what Plan B those terrorists had if we weren't even aware of Plan A...) But on the same note, between the 1980 and 2000, 335 situations were suspectaed to be terrorist acts. 250 of them were committed by AMERICAN CITIZENS.

The KKK, the Weathermen, the Jewish Defense League, the Army of God, among several others are all domestic organizations associated with terrorist acts. Yet we are worried about someone coming here to keep food in their children's bellies....check out this link for more info(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_terrorism_in_the_United_States
America is the Land of the Free, full of opportunites for people to sufficiently provide for their families. Should we look down upon another person simply because of where they were born? Should we deny them the right to eat and work everyday and provide for their children because they cant pass a test to get into this country? (a test, mind you, that the majority of LEGALLY BORN American citizens couldn't pass without concentrated dedication and study)

We are ALL one, Human. Where you were born, which not one of us had a choice in, has no relevance on the fact that we ALL bleed red. We all need the same thing to survive and flourish. What gives one set of humans the right to tell another set of humans they are not allowed to have the basic needs of their survival because "You are not supposed to be in my country." Most of these immigrants come from nothing and they will accept anything, because its better than what they had before. We see illegal immigrants all the time working for hardly no pay, long hours, multiple families living in one small home, doing what they can to get an education...and we also see Americans complaining about their lack of pay as they exhibit no passion in their attempts to FIND suitable employment , using Food Stamps and other Government assistance to get by so they DONT have to work, stopping at the completion of highschool (or a GED, if that...), having children to get child support and large tax refunds, etc. So how about cracking down on those LEGAL citizens that are sucking our government dry consciously ignoring all the opportunites for success at their fingertips and adding to our poverty and crime, instead of focusing on those ILLEGAL immigrants that are taking their place in a productive America. Of course Im not saying there are no immigrants that sponge off the government just as I am not insinuating there are not productive and successful Americans. But if we are only going to point out the negative side if immigration, it was only fair to express the negative side of Americans.

Why not simply implement a clause into the applications for government assistance, that if you can not provide verifiable proof that you are a legal U.S. citizen, you can not get government aid. Would that not alleviate that particular governmental burden? Focus on Border patrol, increase the agents both on land and in water so those wanting to immigrate must go about it the correct way, enforce immigrant screening and background checking to aid in the denial of those immigrants who are deemed "suspicious". Provide classes free of charge, perhaps with the aid of volunteers of that immigrants particular background to help them learn English and other skills that will assist them productively incorporating themselves into society. Please, check out this link for arguments from both standpoints. http://www.balancedpolitics.org/immigration.htm

My final point is this...how can we exhibit SO much passion about this countries immigration, when this country was BUILT on immigration. Both voluntary and involuntary. Colonizers brought the "benefits of civilization" to the Native Americans (who had this land before we did) and removed them from everything they knew. The lands were plush and flourishing, the animals were roaming and plentiful, the violence was limited in present comparison. We destroyed the lands, dramatically decreased important animal populations, created hostility where there was no need and infected the Natives with killer diseases that decimated their populations. Not to mention the Africans who were shipped here against their will and enslaved. As far back as I have read in different History books, we have often had some type of issue with immigration and anyone different from ourselves, tried to saturate our beliefs, customs and ideals onto other cultures, and exhibited an undeniable lack of tolerance to anything that does not fit into our little box of "what should be".
Dont try to figure out different ways to prevent immigration or decrease immigration as a whole, then you will be "punishing those that need no punishment" instead, let us figure out a way to control the "bad apples" from getting through so we can continue to allow the others the rights we so easily take for granted. Life, Liberty, Happiness and Safety.

We were immigrants who brought immigrants, yet now we have a major issue with immigrants. Oh the irony...

Until Next Time...
DaniC

The Justice System: Is it intolerably biased?

2009-03-15T19:44:00.004-05:00

Conflict

2009-03-10T00:33:00.003-05:00

My Dreams are my Fears...
Reaching while restraining
A Fire,
Blazing then fading.

This war of purpose, I've fought it..
The battle rages on inside me.
Confusion I feel, yet clearly I see.
I hate it...Yet I still want it.

Troubled Heart of mine,
make up your bemused mind.
For my soul do you torment so...

For Love I will not gamble.
Peace I must channel...

Or happiness I will never know.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

My Country...and Voting

2009-03-08T21:04:00.005-05:00

I was recently asked in my Government class what my opinion was in reference to voting in the U.S. Now...I could have gone on and on...like I tend to do, but I cut it down for the purposes of posting it on my blog. Please feel free to share your opinions with me, you know I would love to hear from you! Happy reading :)

As our textbooks have taught us, barely half of eligible voters even bother making it to the polls. The access is there, the information to make educated decisions are available, voting rights for minorities and women have been fought for and established...yet it still takes a great deal of persuasion to get people to exercises that coveted right to vote. Why are the U.S. voting turnout rates so low while other countries are so high? I believe that voting being voluntary (a civic right) in the states versus compulsory (a civic duty) in some other countries is a major factor. Whenever you leave the option NOT to vote on the table, those who place limited value on their votes in the first place (and who have little to no knowledge or understanding of the issues they are voting about) will most surely exercises this right. Of course race, income, education, etc are major factors in voter turnout. But PERSONALLY, I think our voter turn out is so low because of those reasons and more, such as Political Detachment. If you haven't grown up around politics...or have never taken a class or spoken with someone that accurately broke down the relevance of politics, you don't understand how any of those fancy speeches and large words have anything to do with your regular 9 to 5. It took me until recently to see how what happens on the Hill...can have a trickle down effect into our everyday American lives. We were never really worried about government budgets, bailouts, policy changes, emergency response organizations, employment loss, wage cutting...until the effects of it became integrated into our everyday lives. We would see the commericals and the meetings on C-Span talking about oil, budgets and relations with other countries,...but it never became "real" to us until we saw those gas prices rising, jobs being cut, 100's of soldiers being killed, etc. Sometimes it takes the general becoming personal before you can fully grasp its importance. Our generation knows nothing but privilege, More often than not, we take for granted the liberties our country has granted us. Yes we have a long way to go, but we shouldn't discount or demote how far we have come. Do I believe that a person reserves the right NOT to vote? OF course. But I also believe that if a person chooses not to vote, it should be because after comparing both options presented, they see no productive choice. Not because they think their choice wont make a difference.
The only way to increase voter turnout is to increase voting awareness. Don't push the pedal to the medal and go into a media frenzy for certain elections. Attempting to cram the best rhetoric into a politically uneducated mind for the sake of one election will have a short-lived effect. Instead, teach citizens what they are voting about and how important their vote really is. Just like we have nationwide programs for a Drug Free America, AIDS Awareness, Breast Cancer...why not incorporate one for Voting Awareness. Put the major aspects of our government; the issues we frequently vote on; and the historical and future significance of exercising the right to vote in layman's terms and launch a nationwide campaign. You teach a child their letters and numbers so later, they will be prepared to make words and solve math problems. Educate our citizens about voting consistently; I would even look to developing some type of class for our elementary and secondary schools so we can start early raising the awareness of voting in our countries young and impressionable minds.

English...Algebra...Spanish...Voting Education.
I like it.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Intermission...

2009-02-26T01:32:00.003-06:00

It's 1:30 in the morning people. And I am wide awake...
Not because I want to be, trust me...there is nothing I would like more than to dive head first into that nice cozy bed and snore myself into oblivion

But it shall not be.

Why you ask?..well, because of the same reason that has prevented me from updating my Blog as often as I would like to. HOMEWORK.
I must say...I knew that going to school full time while continuing to work was going to be a challenge. But Lord, I had no idea. My mornings start at 5am, and I don't go back to sleep until 2 0r 3 am (most of the time). I'm tired, cranky, agitated...and I think my brain is about to short circuit. HA

BUT, its all worth it. Even in my barely conscious state of mind, I feel overwhelmingly accomplished and inspired. I know that this struggle will condition me for success and my completed degree will open the doors for that success to take form. (With alot of help from God of course!)

I want to thank each and every one of my readers for the continued support and encouragement. During these trying times, I feed off of your motivation and I thank you.

Well, my night has finally come to a close (or should I say morning)...so I will leave you all with these words.

I live to write, I write to live. Thank you...each of you...for sharing a little corner of my world.

Until next time,
DaniC

Divorce:Causes and Remedies

2009-02-14T22:12:00.004-06:00

There are several underlying causes of divorce; some are valid while others tend to be more subjective.
Social evolution, Nurture/Nature, Religion and personal experiences are just a few of the influences that affect a person’s decision making in regards to their marriage disbanding. These reasons can include
abuse, infidelity, financial struggles, physical changes, outside relationships, even business agreements. Lack of active communication, trust and respect can devastate the marital foundation.

However, all is not lost if saving your marriage is indeed a priority. Look towards improving the Quality of your communication instead of the Quantity. More communication does not necessarily mean the communication will get better. You have to first respect the fact that each person is an individual, and each individual rightfully possesses their own opinions, emotions and triggers. How can you expect someone to make the attempt to understand you, when that action is not reciprocated to them? You will not always agree but you should always respect the others viewpoint.
So you find that your heated conversation has now turned into a volatile arguement? Take yourself out of the situation and weigh its importance without any of the negative provocations that could cause you to lose control. You will be surprise how often you conclude that what you were so fired up about, really is trivial at best.
Thus, saving an unnecessary disagreement.

Another stepping stone on your path to peace is getting more involved as a family in your church. Oftentimes, receiving religious counseling can have a harmonious effect in your home. Do not antagonize each other, allow the other person to feel
comfortable being themselves without judgment from you (another imperfect person), and put forth the extra effort to spend personal time together...never lose your affection. It goes a long way.
There will always be problems and disagreements. We are human and ultimately, mistakes will be made. But The main thing to remember is that nothing worth having, is easy to achieve nor will it be effortless to maintain.

Being Responsible

2009-02-11T00:31:00.004-06:00

I was recently asked by an English mentor of mine, what my perspective was in reference to responsiblity...what it means and how important it is to a positively productive life...So, of course...I responded. Hopefully this post will be useful to at least one person that reads it... :)

RESPONSIBILTY

To understand why responsibility is such an important character enhancement to have, you have to
fully understand exactly what that word means. According to Webster’s Dictionary, responsibility is the
ability to answer for one’s conduct; trustworthy; able to choose between right and wrong. It goes far
beyond simply acknowledging when you have done something erroneous, it’s putting the extra effort in
to prevent the wrong from happening in the first place. How often have we said to ourselves, “Now
why would someone do such a crazy thing?” or “He should have known better!”? That does nothing but
refer back to that person’s responsibility before the negative even occurred. Actually, the benefits
of being a responsible person exceeds those that directly affect us, our level of responsibility will also
affect others. By exhibiting this important quality, your advice and reprimands will be accepted better,
you’ll have more productivity in your personal life as well as your career, and you will find that
people trust you more. You will also have a better quality of friends due to your responsible choosing of
those that surround you. Being responsible can positively affect every aspect of our lives as long as we
remain consistent and persistent in exhibiting it.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Three Guidelines for Building a Better Relationship

2009-02-01T01:12:00.004-06:00

Relationships come in all types and varieties, Personal, Business, and Spiritual, just to name a few. Here, I will give you 3 guidelines that you can utilize to strengthen these relationships and others. Oftentimes we spend more energy focusing on highlighting the negativity that we overlook the necessity of proper communication.

Communication, the successful ability to express thoughts, information and ideas and or functioning as one, is one of the most important skills to possess in a relationship. My reasoning for using the “and/or” phrase above is due to the fact that sometimes, such as speeches, sermons and lectures, there is no need to “function as one” with the other parties involved. You are the sender, they are the receivers. You primary goal in that setting would be to effectively deliver a message that can be successfully understood and retained by the receivers. For now, let us focus on interpersonal settings. Have you ever heard the old saying “If you point one finger there are three more pointing back at you.”? Parts of successful communication include the ability to present a problem and perhaps solutions, listen to another’s grievances or praises, being able to resolve conflicts and grow from the process. A few ways to build stability into your communication technique are as follows; Always remain honest, but respectful. Peacefully allow others to express themselves and reciprocate that respect when delivering your messages. Remember for every action, there is a reaction. Promote your relationship from the Me-Your approach to the “Our” method. This can only be achieved through compromise, patience, and realistic expectations.

We, as imperfect people, frequently have unrealistic expectations for this non-existent perfection in another. Understanding that we all have room for improvement will allow you exercise more patience and understanding in growing relationships, as well as appreciate even more when the same is given to you. Realistically, we all know every relationship will have its good days and its bad ones. If the good outweighs the bad, don’t give more focus to the negativity. Address it with proper communication, mutually work on the solution or its’ acceptance, then redirect your focus back to what’s positive. Dedication and commitment to any cause will do nothing but strengthen it. Apply this respect to your relationships.

The final guideline is respect. I view respect as an umbrella. Under this umbrella, we have all the subsidiaries of the word. Honesty, Loyalty, Trust and Appreciation all fall under Respect. If you expect it, reciprocate it. Never expect from anyone what you are not willing to give. As another famous phrase goes “Do unto others as you will have them do unto you.” Chanted throughout time, you can see how this simple phrase is, simply put, the core building block in strengthening any relationship
Although there are several different branches regarding relationships that we could climb, I believe the 3 guidelines explained here are the main steps to positively strengthening these interactions. With the commitment of proper communication, a realistic mindset, and respect you can achieve a mutual goal of building a better relationship.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Living up to the Dream...Has Dr. King's Dream been fulfilled?

2009-01-23T09:11:00.005-06:00

In light of the recent historical events leading up to the election of our Nation's first President with African roots, I have decided to re-post one of my favorite pieces regarding Dr. King's Dream. Forgive me for not saying President Obama is African American only...Respecting the fact that he loves his mother and grandmother dearly and I will not negate the white heritage he possesses from them. Their memory and positive influence in his upbringing should be acknowledged and recognized as well. I understand that he has been titled as Black...Don't get me wrong, I often refer to him as that myself. But as I write this post, it is my attempt to not only share my opinion....but to remain fair and balanced in the delivery of that opinion.

We all have different opinions on what accurately represents or illustrates our individual cultures, where our strengths are evident...and where we stand to improve. Below I have composed a response to the message in Dr. King's I Have a Dream address. Please, share your opinions with me! Happy Reading!

History has shown that Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was one of the most influential men leading the Civil Rights struggle. His eloquent words inspired and motivated the nation, while his patient and peaceful actions illustrated the depth and strength of his character. Although Dr. King delivered several inspiring public addresses, one in particular resonates throughout history as “…one of the greatest demonstrations for freedom in the history of our nation (King 1).” The “I Have a Dream” speech seared into our hearts and minds the details of what Dr. King’s dream entailed. This speech explained the depth of his hopes and desires for not only the African American community, but the nation. Dr. King used this speech as a tool to motivate positive resistance against segregation as well as to incite resolution attempts by the government. He was more than aware of the trials his community endured, the temptation of hatred, and the stench of stagnancy, but he encouraged all those involved not to give up the struggle, “This sweltering summer of the Negro’s legitimate discontent will not pass until there is…freedom and equality (King 1).” but in that fight he also commanded peace and dignity, unwavering trust in God and resistance to reverse racism. The following quote from this renowned communication illustrates this. “…we must not be guilty of wrongful deeds…not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred…conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity…degenerate into physical violence…must not lead us to distrust all White people…(King 2).”
From a governmental standpoint, the basics of Dr. King’s dream have been realized and implemented. In comparison to 1963, African Americans have experienced substantial improvement in regards to race acceptance, equal employment, and political advancement. What is accepted as the norm today; interracial dating, blacks in positions of power, mixed neighborhoods, etc., would have provoked race wars, horrific violence and major political demonstrations. To see a loving interracial couple with beautiful bi-racial children living in a neighborhood surrounded by white and black families alike, is an accomplishment of astounding proportions for our nation. We can walk into any restaurant or store confident that regardless of our color, we will be properly serviced. Where history shows a black man could lose his property, family, or his life for disrespecting a white man, present day shows us that not only can a black man and a white man disagree, but they can come to mutual agreements and oftentimes end up business partners or friends from the process. Dr. King would be proud of these achievements, personal and political. And with the recent historical election of the first African American President, another major racial milestone has been crossed. What makes this victory even more profound is the overwhelming support of the white community. That election could not have been won without the nation coming together for a common cause, as Dr. King would have desired.
However, from a cultural view, many important moral aspects of Dr. King’s dream have fallen by the wayside. Today, black on black crime, decreased motivation in self improvement and exaggerated claims of racism to justify idleness are just a few issues still plaguing the African American community. Although it was present as well back then, the presence of it today in higher statistical numbers shows that the struggle is far from over. Though many can argue African Americans, as well as other races, will still occasionally encounter the sting of prejudice, there are too many resources in place today for those encounters to have the same end result of our yesteryears. Our mothers, fathers, brothers and sisters enduring the pain of the Civil Rights struggle relied on family, church, hope and cultural togetherness to strengthen their walk. Strong family and moral values were instilled in our youth and there was no safer place than your neighborhood surrounded by your people. Front doors remained unlocked, children were allowed to roam freely with friends, and churches were filled to the brim with hopeful, faith-filled faces inspired by the promise of change. As previously stated, with any race during any time period throughout history, hate was evident and crimes were committed. However, if any race strives for the unity and strength that Dr. King exemplified, you must not ignore the areas of opportunity in your race simply because it may be present universally. Settling or accepting wrong because it’s common is far from the message he was trying to deliver. Because of this, I feel Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. would be pleased with the progress in most areas, but disturbed by the disintegration of others.Yes, the African American community has achieved monumental success in obtaining equality, justice, peace and renewed hope for the future. No, we haven’t fulfilled the full concept of Dr. King’s dream because of the lapse of cultural wide harmony and motivation. We have come so far, but there is still work to be done. Never give up the struggle, internal or external, because you have come a long way. Continue that struggle until you get where you need to go. And as a people, we are not quite there yet

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Thank you for you Patience

2009-01-11T11:01:00.005-06:00

Wow, I can't believe that it has been 11 days since I posted. My sincerest apologies.
To all my readers, thank you for being patient. There were several personal issues that required all of my time and attention...but all is well again and there will be new material posted for your enjoyment soon. In the meantime, please take a moment to browse back through my older posts...even the ones from the conception of this Blog. You never know what you may have missed! :)

Thank you again for your support!

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Rise Woman, Rise

2008-12-31T19:29:00.006-06:00

A door that constantly revolved.
Never the same suitor would she see.
One man in...another out, Her mother was defiant of morality.
From babe to teen...into a young woman she evolved.
Unaware of her value to the world
In security and virtue was she robbed
As her desolate circle of life unfurled.

He shattered her fragile innocence.
Her Protector he was no more.
While the woman in whose womb she was nurtured....
Chose to ignore the constant visitor at her door.
With a broken spirit and a tortured soul, she blossomed into resentment and hate.
Though presently free of that circumstance, forever bound by the despair of her fate.

He saturated her ears with flowery words...her heart with excessive affection.
Such worth she had never felt before.
So she gave him her Love with no protection.
Distracted from schooling with His seed on her hip...
No support...for her... yielded only one choice.
So drop out she did, to take care of their kid
While Hopelessness restrained her heart's voice.

An addiction more powerful than Life itself.
The demanding darkness consumed her soul.
She acknowledged nothing but her need to feed
In this conflict, she played the defeated role.
Ripped from her arms were the babes she conceived,
So their purity her sins would not taint.
Ripped from her heart was that beat of hope
Her chances for survival growing more faint....

Attracted to the Same, taunted for her lifestyle.
To be different was not a choice she made.
She tried to hide who was really inside
But that person was to strong to fade.
Fighting Internal Demons and Hostility from Heathens
Who sling opinions about her kind of Love.
Struggling to be understood and accepted by Man,
when her only Judgment should come from above.

In all of these women, both young and old
Various sufferings connect their pain.
Though rooted and shaped in different backgrounds,
their struggles are all the same.

With all of your heart, Be all that you are...Progress to who you can be.
Take no heed of another's unforgiving opinion.
For Man seldom recognizes the potential in what they see.

Abused you have been, but you will rise from the ashes.
Misused to no end, but you will move past it.
Temporarily conquered by your significant mistakes.
Returned safely from the brink of self-destruction by Faith.

Women…My Sisters, unite for this reason.
To Encourage. To Strengthen. To Uplift.
For in each of us is a piece of another…
Our presence here is God’s great gift.

written by DaniC 2008

Until Next Time...

Live Life...Be Safe

2008-12-29T17:03:00.005-06:00

You thought that she was It.
This Angel conjured and released from your dreams.
You thought that she was the One.
A vision of pure enchantment, Your brimming heart bursts at the seams.

Tresses of silk, always adorned in the finest....
Her strut oozes seduction with a body that rivals a goddess.
An impeccably smooth approach, her conversations are priceless.
A bold swagger of confidence easily branding her as flawless.

Your heart, Your body...
Her hand.
You put up no defense.

Queen of an all consuming passion.
Her Love...too many... she never denied a taste.
Your fascination with your fantasy overpowered your judgment.
Pain...Regret...Death now takes its place.

You look at her...still so beautiful. Yet in your heart, the anger burns.
You look at her... in her place of finality, as you sorrowfully await your turn.

Her eyes sparked inside you a passionate riot
A war between what should and should not be.
You should have heeded that internal counsel...
You should have listened to the wisdom of Our era...

For your Angel was carrying H.I.V.

DaniC 2008

Until Next Time...
DaniC

The Lake

2008-12-27T11:53:00.004-06:00

I’ve never been one to sit at a lake for the sole purpose of the lake itself. Sure, I’ve taken my children to one so they could play at the park adjacent to it and I’ve also driven to one just to sit in my car and relax. But I have never actually paid concentrated attention to the lake and the wildlife that surrounds it.

Once I focused on nature itself, instead of allowing it to simply become the background for other distractions, there were so many mesmerizing things that trapped my attention.

Everything from the ripple of the water sparking like loose diamonds on silver silk to the tiny fire ants marching on their pre-determined paths of production had stability, organization and most of all harmony. I sat and I watched. I listened and I concentrated. Before I realized it, I had become “one” with this beautifully woven tapestry of nature. Daring to step outside my limited expectations, I was astounded at how complex, yet predictable this world actually was. To be honest, I felt as if my closed mind and personal biases had deprived me from the purest of experiences, appreciating Mother Nature.

Yes, this lake was man-made, but only the lake. The circle of life takes care of the rest. It’s funny when you think about it. This land at one time belonged entirely to our wildlife. Then we came along, tore it all up and re-created a smaller, more contained version of what they already had. Yet, unlike humans who often have problems dealing with major changes especially in their environment, these animals and bugs stepped right back into their melody of survival and synchronization. The grass grows thick and green, a plush carpet for us but a complicated system of housing for more creatures than you can imagine.

The insects go about their daily activities, moving quickly to reach their meals or their homes.

The birds fly and swim, as well as eat small fish and the unsuspecting insects that didn’t quite make it in time to their abodes. They all know when and what to do, how to do it, and who in their fellow animal kingdom to avoid. They demonstrate total organization, discipline and predictability. It’s all quite complicated, yet so simple. If you place something in the path of a worker ant, it will simply figure out a way to go around this obstacle. If you place something in the path of a person, we spend more time focused on the obstacle itself than the solution. When a bird has its environment altered or experiences the nuisance of thunderstorms, it will still find a way to sing.

We often equate being wild with being unsophisticated, untamed and unpredictable. I believe that is only true if you are trying to introduce something foreign into their world. Stick your finger in an ant bed. Are they wild and untamed because they bite you or are they behaving exactly as you knew they would before you proceeded with the act? If you break into a unsuspecting person’s home and they open fire on you, does that also make them “wild” and “unpredictable” as well? We, as humans, react the same way wild animals do when we are introduced to something foreign but we hide our “bites and growls” behind desks, politics, racism, etc. Maybe if we incorporate more of the adaptation, acceptance, and fortitude that our wildlife exhibits into our own multifaceted lives, we will begin to experience a higher level of harmony with each other.

After this beautiful eye-opener, I will put forth my best effort to always look at things and people with an open mind and an appreciative heart. I never thought that something as common as nature would enlighten me on appreciation, biases and adaption in my own environment. So during your next visit to your favorite lake or park, take the time to experience nature. There is much to be learned and even more to be discovered.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Reflection of Me

2008-12-26T09:33:00.006-06:00

When I look at me, I don't question what I see.
The perfect imperfections, this wonderfully unique reflection
I will not doubt Me... instead I savor my own individuality

Not the most beautiful, yet still one of a kind
Not the most intelligent, its true. Yet perceptive enough to be deemed refined.
Still learning the ways of the world, my quest for wisdom never ceases.
Still evolving into who I will be, knowing this, in me a euphoric peace releases.

My hands, though a little large, inscribe the words that spill forth from my mind.
My lips, bigger than most, speak words of progression and encouragement...for negativity I have resigned.
My feet, a tad bit wide, strides steadily on the path of love and compassion
My eyes, with a slant from my ancestors, see deeper into the complicated souls of man. For life tends to give some Peace only in small rations....

No, when I look at me...I don't question what I see.
I don't focus on my mistakes and woes of the past, I will not let hopelessness guide me.

I am a perfect illustration of Uniqueness.
In every way, every fault and each flaw...
Everyday, Learn to love yourself more...for my internal Commitment to Contentment abides by this law.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Holiday Revelations

2008-12-23T19:42:00.001-06:00

I was driving to work this morning...alternating between staying alive on the rain slicked roads and correcting my smeared eyeliner in the visor mirror...
That eyeliner was really getting on my nerves...you see, the wind was cracking its icy whip across my face something terrible as I walked out to my car, thus began the eye watering. After the time consuming task of painstakingly applying my "Holiday" make up, dealing with smears was as appealing as nails on a chalk board.
Yes...this is the INCREDIBLY frustrating distraction I imposed upon myself... as if it actually had some type of significance to my day...

Then I glanced to my right. Talk about a overwhelming reality check.
That quick glimpse to the shoulder of the highway not only convicted my heart from its previous self centered grievances, but it also clearly placed into perspective what should be relevant this holiday season...and each day thereafter...

When I looked to the shoulder of that dark, chilly, wet freeway...I saw a man.

This man was determinedly walking, slowly but surely, to his known or uncharted destination. On his face was no frown...in his demeanor was no frustration...
and in his basket, were meager worldly possessions.

Here was a human being deprived, for whatever reason, the simple comforts of heat, shelter and transportation. Yet he still held his head with pride.
Here was a man whose life possessions fit, with room to spare, inside the confines of a small shopping cart. Yet his countenance exuded contentment.
With the unrelenting sting of the bitter wind, the soaking irritation of the cold rain and the deficiency of proper shelter and nourishing food...this man continued to walk forward, he continued to fight for progression on his path. He never sat down to complain or beg for help. He continued to look ahead, and never once looked back.

Oh what a person can learn from observing the character of those in need. The strength and longsuffering they exhibit are astounding...and humbling as well.

Reflection and Appreciation.

This is what the holidays should be about.
Remember where you used to be and where you could have ended up...
Give thanks for where you are now and for the ability to progress forward and achieve more.
Understand that when you find yourself agitated by your lack thereof...remember there is someone, somewhere that has less.

I understand that job is getting on your nerves...but someone is sitting in the unemployment office right now begging for work.
I know your children are driving you insane...but some poor mother will celebrate this holiday grieving the loss of their child.
I know your spouse annoys you sometimes, your bank account falls below acceptable, your friends may not always understand you, your enthusiasm and motivation for life often drops its pulse to critical...
Just remember there is someone praying for the embrace of real love...there is someone who has never opened a bank account because they've never had an extra dime to do so...there is someone who has not one friend because of a turbulent life that prevented them from creating productive relationships...

But most important...there is someone who has no life at all. They have no way of loving, hating, needing or wanting. They can't see, hear, think or feel. Expectedly or not, Their precious time on this earth came to an end. And the legacy they left behind, be it negative or positive is all that anyone will reflect on.

Though the beautiful and fashionable gifts this season will surely be plentiful, Let us not forget what really matters. Love, Family, and a Thankful heart.

Happy Holidays to each and every one of you.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

2008-12-22T15:09:00.007-06:00

I know it hurts.

That is a mutual feeling running rampant throughout the devastated souls of each Cowboy fan that watched their most recent game against the Ravens. Although they put up a valiant fight to the end, they lacked The Hunger.

Had that Hunger been present, perhaps things would have gone a tad bit differently.

Maybe Romo wouldn't have overthrown to those wide open receivers, Miles Austin and T.O....
Maybe the Offensive coaching would have been productively up to par and those players would have actually been put into positions to MAKE plays...
Perhaps those 2 touchdown passes Romo hurled at T.O. and Jason Whitten during the final 4 minutes of the game (you know, the ones that brought those Cowboys within 2 points of their coveted victory) would have actually caused the Ravens to collapse in defeat...

Perhaps if that Hunger was present, the Dallas Cowboys would not have allowed Baltimore's McLain to run an 82 yard touchdown or McGahee to run a 77 yard touchdown (kind of ironic that this run actually TIED with the longest run EVER by an opponent in Texas Stadium history...at the last game be played at Texas Stadium).

Insult was slathered onto injury by allowing this defeat on such an historical day for Dallas. Texas Stadium has been a prominent and legendary fixture in this great city for decades. To end this great legacy with an unacceptable and quite preventable loss from the Home team...dances a country jig in the realm of pure embarrassment.

Alas, this is the way it went...and although I realize this game may have caused your eyes to water a bit...
Remember, all is not lost...Yet.

Due to the realistically unpredictable world of football...the Cowboys still have a chance for that sought-after playoff spot. Don't give up hope, the best is yet to come. It is in defeat where a greater appreciation for victory is found. All it takes is a win in the upcoming battle with the Eagles, and so shall continue our turbulent fight for a place in the 43rd Super Bowl festivities. This is a time when all Cowboy fans around the world should unite in cohesive support for America's Favorite football team.

Even in the face of defeat, the Cowboys can arise triumphant. If it's one thing this team is known for, its overcoming overwhelming odds and defying those that write off their success.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Change of Plans...

2008-12-20T16:44:00.005-06:00

Ahhh, Saturday afternoon...
off of work, tired from play and relaxed from great food and entertaining television. I couldn't think of a better way to be. (Unless you add a million dollar bank account to the equation!) Needless to say, I'm having a pretty good day. I have voluntarily neglected updating posts on my blog for a variety of reasons. What can I say, I needed that extra brain power. I've been thinking a lot lately about the direction of my career and that important decision alteration has dominated my every waking moment. But alas...that decision has been made.

I'm switching my degree major from Recording Technology to Journalism.

My passion for music has not dwindled by one bit. That is still, and will always remain, a release for me...a musical equivalent to the complicated stories I often write about in my empty hours. But it is those stories, along with life long advisement from those closest to me and the self realization of where my talent truly lies that prompted my decision change. It is in the writing itself, not in the music, where I find contentment. Now once I reach the goal set for myself in Journalism and Creative Writing...and I decide to try my hand with music again, instead of working to build musical compositions from the ground up...I will simply focus on lyric writing. Still a marketable skill in the entertainment industry, yet it does not remove me from my area of skill and comfort.

This small yet significant change will allow me to fine tune my literary skills, sharpen my journalism abilities and concentrate on the one thing that I've always immersed myself in...yet never considered for a career. Writing.

What prompted me to question my initial career choice? Well, it was the lack of story expansion satisfaction. *smile* Yes, I made that up from scratch...but surprisingly, it describes what I was feeling quite well. You see, music placed too many confines on my pen and my style. I have a story to tell...but I can't always fit it into a few measures and bars.
I need elaboration...details...subplots...
I need my audience to see, smell, taste and feel everything that spills from my pen...
There is also the simple fact that this, writing, is what I do most...and best. I feel really good about the change. My mind is an empty well waiting to be filled with the knowledge and wisdom that I am about to receive as I pursue my new career change. I'm also thinking about starting another blog that will give you all access to my short stories, poems and potential novel chapters. This is a project in the works though...
I won't rush success, I will simply prepare myself for it.
Thank you, each and every visitor, for all your support and advice.

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Revelation

2008-12-15T16:49:00.004-06:00

I do not smile because I am constantly happy. I am constantly happy because I smile.
Or should I be discouraged by the lows and overtaken by my woes
Without a doubt, in pursuing that route...In my soul, pure discontentment would I rile.

I do not love because my heart is full, my heart is full because I love.
Or should I allow the pessimism of man to control the generosity of my spirit
Mirroring emotional suicide...too substandard to endure, too disastrous to speak of....

To smile in spite of pain exemplifies an distinctive, impenetrable inner peace.
To love in place of hate magnifies Hope, that encouraging level of optimism we should all aspire to reach

I live to hope ....committed to produce
in this I shall never tire
I produce to liberate ...consistent in my release
eager to successfully Inspire.

My Life is not rewarding because I have things, My Life is rewarding because I have dreams.

DaniC-2008

Until Next Time...

Almost Done...Till I start again!

2008-12-10T09:29:00.002-06:00

Whew! Three down...One to go.

I completed 3 of my finals last week (lets keep our fingers crossed!) The last one, Music Foundations, I will take tomorrow.
This was my first college experience (yes, I waited what...8 years?) and I must say, I have learned quite a bit...Personally and Academically.

In order to successfully pass the courses I registered for, of course I had to learn and retain as much of the course information as possible...but what I didn't expect was the transforming way I was personally challenged and conditioned.
I have come to realize, at an even higher capacity, that the simple desire to succeed is not enough. Only with acute perseverance, tremendous dedication and a disciplined vision, will you make that success a tangible reality.

The thing is, I have always had dreams...hopes...a plan for the direction in which my Life's path should be paved. External circumstances often placed temporary roadblocks against my progress and internal conflicts often caused me to question the reason for progression at all...but I never stopped believing in myself or the potential of who I could become. Some say you are a simply a fixture in a pre-determined destiny...others believe you chart your own. Personally, my membership is with the latter. The bad choices and negative situations of my past will not dictate the character I strive to uphold today...nor will it determine the level of success and progress I can achieve.

Moving on up in life and maturity with those who knew you before is probably one of the most frustrating feats to accomplish. Some attempt to keep you tethered to your past mistakes, while others minimize or outright reject your personal advancements and positive self development. Why is that? We can easily believe in the possibility of change for ourselves, but that credence loses conviction when placed against the progression of others.

Knowing who you were...who you are...and who you want to become is the full body armor that shields your dreams and goals from the negativity of the naysayers and the frustration of occasional self-doubt.

Reach high and never settle for less.
(wish me luck on this last exam *smile*)

Until Next Time...
DaniC

Women Hating Women

2008-12-07T15:20:00.005-06:00

Why is that?

Why does our gender have such a complicated time being supportive, confident and mature when dealing with our female counterparts? I am referring to a self revelation I experienced a long time ago.

Women can be unnecessarily intolerable and demeaning to each other for no reason other than a subconscious personal vicinity violation.

I am still occasionally guilty of an intruding thought of enviousness or an irrelevant conversation about entertaining business not my own, perfection I will not claim. The key is for you to remain cognizant of how quickly you can fall victim to this unconstructive behavior and make the conscious effort to manage it. Am I saying it is wrong to discuss entertaining things with your friends and family? No, of course not! But everything has its time and place.

I can come home and have a hilarious conversation with my husband about a ridiculous dress I saw someone in…or perhaps some crazy rumor I heard in the break room on lunch that day.

But would it remain appropriate for me to have that same hilarious conversation about that ridiculous dress…while the person wearing it was still in passing? Is it wise for me to discuss that wild rumor with another co-worker (who then of course immediately returns the favor to their co-worker(s) of choice)? I suppose you can say, “That’s how I heard it!” right…Through the grapevine?

Hmmm, so does contributing to the sustenance of a problem, not make you part of that problem as well? You throw trash out onto a well littered highway, you are still littering. You continue to pass and discuss gossip (no matter how hot it was on the airwaves before reaching you), you are still gossiping. It’s that simple.

“Look at her…she knows she is wrong for that outfit!”… ”She is so stuck up, why does she think she is all that?”… ”I heard she has slept with half the office and has the rest on a waiting list”…”I bet her hair is fake…her clothes are cheap…I heard this, I heard that….she did this, she did that…” I could go on and on…because that’s what we do as women. We go on and on. Let me ask you this, Have you ever worn something that shouldn’t have been in? Have you ever made an honest mistake or a poor decision that backfired on you negatively? Have you ever fallen for the sweet words of a charmer only to find out you were just another notch in his belt? Have you ever had a lie told on you that erupted to uncontrollable wide spread knowledge? Have you ever been/slept/flirted with someone that you KNEW you had no business doing any of the above with, and NO one found out? This self-analysis should be done before passing any type of judgment on another (especially one that can cause a 3rd party to have an inaccurate preconception about a person they don’t even know)

In addition to the fact that we are all imperfect creatures, you also lack the important knowledge of a person’s history. So you encounter an overweight woman switching by with her head held high sporting an outfit a tad bit on the snug side, you immediately cackle with your closest hens about how ridiculous she looks. I’ll bet you didn’t know that she used to be, only a short while ago, 150 pounds heavier than she is now. That pep in her step was placed there by a dramatic reduction in weight, a healthier lifestyle, and a positive escalation of confidence. My point is that you never know WHAT a person has been through or how your words and actions can affect their lives. What you think is a bad wig, may be the only thing that woman can afford after paying medical bills for chemo treatments. What you think is a horrible outfit may be all a person was able to scrounge together after losing everything they had in a family tragedy.

Use your words to uplift others, not to tear them down. Use your actions to promote unity and love, not negativity and division. Reciprocate the same respect you demand from others…

Ladies, it’s time to make a positive change in the way we support each other. Do not let jealousy, hate, poor self-confidence, and shallow mindsets dictate your character. You are a Queen...you words and actions should radiate dignity, poise, confidence, and maturity.

Remember; if we can’t say anything nice… we shouldn't say anything at all!

Until next time!

Loving Love

2008-12-05T10:32:00.004-06:00

Amazing, simply amazing...almost mind boggling... how strong a hold another human being can have on you. Or more importantly, your heart.
It is "liberating" to be the dictator of your own destiny...to have total control of your emotions and how you expend them.... this we know.

But there is something different about being in love. Something so extraordinary and absolutely necessary. It brings peace to your soul and butterflies to your belly. Once you experience this...once you have absorbed its effects...your free will evolves into a steady, addictive need.

To have your senses driven into submission...your thoughts and fantasies seductively conquered...
To have your dreams, your desires, your passion...wrapped up into one exceptional human being....
Your consistent inspiration...your unfailing motivation...
The reason for your reluctance in leaving...and your insistence on staying...

The time that you spend away from each other...the trials you may have suffered...any insecurities or uncertainties all become irrelevant. They all fade into oblivion once you are in the arms of the one who holds your heart.

Eyes searing into the depths of your being...
A smile that brings light into the darkest corners of your soul...a simple touch deactivates the strength of your defenses...
A kiss. Their Kiss...melts your resistance and inflames a passion so intense...it can never be perfectly illustrated with mere words.

To be in love....to have that awareness that there is someone else in the world who's existence means as much to you as your own....
...that is a priceless gift indeed....

GO TO SLEEP...or it will come to you

2008-12-03T15:26:00.002-06:00

Though my fingers itched to write last night, I resisted that ever present temptation...only to yield willingly to another... SLEEP. Now this wasn't the common, household variety of sleep...you know, where a simple alarm or rousing noise will bring you instantly back to reality. This was more of a semi-comatose state of slumber.
When the alarm goes off, this sleep figures out a way to integrate the sound of the ringing into your dreams...instead of an alarm, you hear a siren go by as you're standing on the corner of a busy street. (therefore, you continue to sleep)
If someone tries to wake you, this sleep calculates, with a mere glance at the nearest alarm clock, the exact amount of time you need to complete the bare minimum to yourself in order to become presentable for work...so you can maximize the amount of time you can continue to lie in bed.
As a matter of fact, this sleep will accidentally slide your screeching alarm to OFF...make an unbelievably realistic call to your Boss to use your Sick Time...then re-assume its temporary position as Lord of your consciousness.
...then you wake up 4 hours later oblivious to how it all happened. (but very well rested!)

That's where I was this morning. And quite frankly, if it wasn't for the overwhelming need of continued employment...I would be waking up right about....
Now. (smile)
My days have been spent worrying and working, and my nights have been dominated by studying and practicing my art. Sometimes, my brain actually feels as if its about to short circuit...
patience is sparse, memory becomes unreliable, diet is unbalanced and rest is almost non-existent.
But it is in these moments that I realize how necessary it is for sleep to be a priority.
Nothing else on your plate can be executed to its fullest potential without you being at your best.

Take time for yourself, you deserve nothing less!
Until next time,

Mental Blackout

2008-12-01T15:05:00.004-06:00

You can be so intellectual, yet know nothing at all when it counts the most.
To those on the outside...you can be so beautiful. But that simple adoration does nothing to combat the emptiness and self-contempt eating away at your soul.
Not one day passes by in your world, where someone doesn't point out your sweet and loving spirit. But the ones to which your heart and soul belong, seem to hate you the hardest.
You can appeal to the masses with your colorful semantics, intriguing conversations, and stimulating opinions...but that spoken allure stops cold when you converse with those with whom you need to be understood by the most.
Why?
Why is it that encouraging words, inspirational expressions and heartfelt, realistic advice will roll off your tongue like water on a swan's back...
But for yourself...for your own pain, heartache, and discontentment...
You have nothing. No words. No inspiration. No encouragement.

That consistent, trustworthy insight and wisdom is devestatingly replaced by uncertainty and confusion.

My heart is aching right now. My mind is cluttered and perplexed. My spirit is cheerless...

My soul is in turmoil hosting this internal battle between what is right and wrong...
what is genuine and false...
what is good and what is good for me.

How can one really be happy when this emotion comes with so many stipulations and requirements dependent on the consistency of another imperfect human being? How can one really make another person happy when who you are isn't accepted ...what you have to give isn't wanted...and what you are willing and trying to do isnt good enough?

I seem to be an asset to the lives of those who are affected by my literature.
I seem to be a liability to the lives of those who are affected by my literal existence.

Why?

She Chose Me

2008-11-29T11:43:00.005-06:00

The search was futile, no breakthrough was achieved.
To clearly convey my thoughts and emotions...
proved to be a difficulty...
beyond what my mind could ever conceive.

That is when she found me.

Bursting from the seams with inspiration from my mind's eye...
I found no salvation...no release...
Choking on verbal censorship and suppression...
Rebelling against what denied me peace...

That is when she found me...this is why she chose me.

What I thought would remain unheard and unchanged
Unfolded before me, Clearly.
All confusion and self-doubt rearranged.

To write is to be inspired, Life has become my muse.
My thoughts and ideas...My dreams and my fears
Have each been given a voice to use,
A voice that transcends color, language and yes...even time.

Who is she that found me...that chose me...that encouraged my contentment so?

She is the art of writing, an art that in many ways...
redefines what incites the creativity in my heart and inflames the passion in my soul.

She found me, she chose me....and now, I have discovered literary tranquility.

Written by Dani-C
November 2008

Part 2: Get to know who you are dating, Can you handle him?

2008-11-27T12:24:00.006-06:00

I have searched as long as I've been looking (smile)....but I STILL haven't been able to locate that priceless manual. Now, I've spoken with several people who appeared, by their self-proclaimed factual opinions and actions, to have read this manual for themselves...but alas, this slippery manuscript continues to evade my grasp...

What manual you say? I believe its called...the Mistake Proof way of Starting, Securing and Maintaining a Problem Free Relationship. Never heard of it? Yes, well...that's because it doesn't exist. Yet people continue to recite rules and regulations on relationship tactics as if they will be universally accurate for all.

When is too soon?...How long should we date before we make a commitment?...When should I introduce him to my children?...What is moving too fast, and is that a bad thing?

The questions that flood one's brain when considering the possibility of a new relationship are overwhelming, and oftentimes confusing. As quick as you can give a pro, you can give a con. I've been there, and it can be a very scary situation. But somethings, I found, are best looked at with common sense instead of emotional logic. Highways have a speed limit for a reason, to prevent unnecessary and sometimes fatal accidents. If you make the decision to speed anyway, which is your choice to make, you must also consider and be willing to accept the consequences of your actions (should you get caught). Such is the same with "rushing" into a relationship. No, your world will not cease to exist if you decide to take the fast track into a commitment. But just as you run the risk of getting a ticket or having an accident when you speed, there will be the possibility that your hasty relationship decision will put you in the path of someone who either feels no remorse in breaking hearts...or you could end up in a relationship where you both are unhappy because there is no real compatibility beyond sexual attraction. Lets be honest...to consistent of a negative environment, and even the sexual attraction will start to dwindle away. We have often charged into relationships which evolved into long-term, passionate affairs of the heart...and that is a beautiful thing. However, if you have rushed and in turn, been disappointed...that doesn't make you a bad person. That means you took a calculated gamble on love and lost. Knowing and acknowledging the risks makes them easier to deal with should you have to experience it. Learn from it, pick yourself back up, and continue to believe in love.

So you've decided to cruise into LoveLand going 55? Well alright my speed-limit lovers, let's take a peek into your world. I'll start by saying this one thing. Reciprocate. Give selflessly the same respect, personality acceptance and patience that you expect to receive. I know it's easier said than done, but you have to remain conscious of this for it to eventually become second nature. As you demand understanding, affection, respect and positive reassurance, so should you give it. Listen to him when he speaks to you, it won't be as often or as emotionally complicated as our dialogues, but it will still have crucial content. Try to understand his opinions, beliefs, wants and needs. Please, don't view a potential mate as a project...for you will always find fault. How would you feel if a man dated you because of what he could turn you into? Look to see if who he is compliments who you are...your weaknesses versus his strengths...his flaws versus your perfections and vice versa. How significant are the things you both have in common compared to where you differ. And don't forget, you are not the only one betting on love here...pay attention to him. Are YOU making HIM happy? The problem may not always lie on the testosterone side of the battlefield, the problem may also lie within us. Always analyze yourself with the same unforgiving eye that you critique another...you'll often surprise yourself at what you see.

There is no right or wrong way to pursue a relationship, if you have good intent. Simply figure out which way is best for you and your situation. Whether you decide to take the fast track or move slow and steady, take as much time as you can to actually get to know the man you are attempting to write another chapter of your life with...The more you know, the more you both can grow.

Until next time...

Thanksgiving, From My Perspective

2008-11-26T12:12:00.005-06:00

I've decided that in the spirit of the Thanksgiving, this post should be dedicated to illustrating the personal significance of this holiday and what my perspective is on its meaning. Part 2 of "Stop Being the Victim" will be posted within the next 24 hours.

What is Thanksgiving?
The first mental picture that normally forces it's way to the front of our brains, is a Turkey. A generously over-fed, freshly stuffed fowl center pieced on the dining room table...surrounded by steaming platters and bowls of side dishes, salads and desserts. (Yes...I'm MORE than a fan of this wonderful day...smile) The significance of gathering your loved ones (near, far, close or extended) to share laughter and conversation over a great meal goes deeper than a simple holiday tradition. This holiday represents a universal suggestion of love, family, unity and most of all, positive reflection. Thanksgiving is one of many important threads that intertwine various demographics, religions, cultures, races and families to one another. No matter who you are, we all have something to be grateful for. The simple reality that we have a properly functioning brain to even attempt to reflect on our lives, is more than enough reason to be thankful. For some lack even that...
What does Thanksgiving mean to me?
I look at my children...those 2 beautifully pure and innocent souls that I have been privileged to raise and protect, and I am thankful. The mistakes and heartaches in our own lives will often cause us to look back with regret and shame. Yet in the eyes of our children, we can see the purity that was once ours. They are the extension of ourselves...what is good from me, what is good from their father...combined to produce what will be Great for our world.

I look at them, and I see a second chance to do better...to be better...to live better. Thanksgiving is a time not to contemplate the things in your life that are incomplete...but at time to focus on the things in your life that complete you. No matter what you may think you are lacking in your life, there will always be someone with even less.
How should we celebrate Thanksgiving?
Everyday. That simple. Although, we have erroneously strayed away from that mindset. Everyday is a day for thanksgiving. You wake up (a MAJOR plus in its own right), you have a roof over your head, food when you need to eat, friends, family, employment, transportation, a bank account, all 5 senses (or 6 if you are a woman*smile*)...the list goes on and on, but we only seem to give focus to our much shorter record of have-nots. Such is the human way of life. There is nothing wrong with the desire to achieve and have more, just remain mindful that you will never fully appreciate any new accomplishment if you are not first thankful for what may have gotten you there.
So you had a blow out on the highway? Be thankful you had roadside assistance and a working cell phone. Your electric bill was extra high this month? Be thankful you have a steady paying job to pay for it. You have never been able to go to the grocery store and spend over 80 bucks for food? Be thankful you can eat at all and that you have transportation to get you to and from the store. Somewhere else, there is a person without a car, a home, a phone, money to eat, working electricity, family, friends...shall I continue? Of course its only natural to desire more...that is how we stay motivated to succeed. The problem arises when that desire for more consumes your ability to be thankful and grounded. You celebrate your birthday only once a year...but I can guarantee you, it would not be the best of ideas to stop living the other 364 days. Your birthday is a special day set aside to celebrate the successful (meaning you are still alive) conclusion of another year of living. Thanksgiving should be interpreted the same way, as a special day set aside to formally celebrate a successful year of being thankful and kind, while inspiring others to do so as well.

Until next time...

Part1-Women: Stop Being the Victim, You deserve so much more

2008-11-24T10:19:00.008-06:00

**We all know the world is full of men that can't be tamed and women that should be. I am not including that small percentage of bad apples into my opinions below. This is for that Good Man and that Good Woman, who've simply been misunderstood and/or heartbroken...The average person trying to find themselves but recieved no guidance on how...the trusting hearts who unfortunately endured the abuse of an experience with one of those "bad apples"...Normal, everyday men and women like you and men...as we search for love, run from love, and fight to remain in love. Please read on....**

I can easily tell you the woes of being a woman...the emotional challenges we face...the heartbreaking, wall forming relationships we've endured...the pressure, the void of appreciation...(que violins and break out the kleenex) However, that redundant subject has caused me to re-evaluate what I once securely believed to be accurate. Men and Women, what we think of each other...and what we think of ourselves.

I don't want one broken-hearted, misused or abused woman in the world to feel as if I am demoting their experience with men...or labeling their experiences less than relevant. Its simply important to illustrate that every man is not patterned after the negative man. For there to be bad...there has to be good. Just as our (women) negative encounters and opinions about men should have a platform for expression, so should the positive ones. Or are they less important because they cause less pain? Remember above all else, for every man that has broken a heart...a woman has as well. Lord knows I dont want to have any stereotype prematurely placed against my head based on the actions of a percentage of my genders whole. My ultimate goal here is to inform and uplift my deserving women on self development, while refraining from the continued negative remarks about men. I won't cover this entire piece at once, but the sections will be updated daily. (Don't worry ye of the Men Species...I've got a special coming for you as well)

Who are you, really?
It's impossible to teach someone how to drive a car if you don't know how to drive yourself. So how can you expect a man to automatically know who you are, how you emotionally function, what provokes you to anger, what your respect and exclusion boundaries are, what previous experiences you have gone through that branded you with permanent emotional damage, etc.,... if you arent completely sure of these things yourself? Being in love with Llove is not enough, you must know who you are and what you bring to a relationship before you can call yourself compatible with another person. "How can I not be sure if my OWN personal experience caused emotional damage? Im the one that endured it." Sounds good coming out, but knowing that something or someone hurt you (an emotion that you cannot control) is completely different from actually acknowledging the internal damage that hurt caused...and what changes may have happened inside of you because of it. Doing this will place the control of your emotional stability back into your hands. (and back into reality!) Example.
You meet John...date...become exclusive, start a relationship. (Im condensing it here people. :) Then, for some reason (acceptable or not) the relationship ends and you are left with a broken heart. (he may have one as well, but again, we're addressing the ladies in this segment) This is the difference between knowing, and acknowledging to change...
-John hurt me so bad when he left, I cried for 2 months. I have such bad luck with men, everytime I try to date someone...they always end up doing something to piss me off or violate my trust. It must be true, they ARE all dogs- This is knowing an experience caused you pain.

-The ending of my relationship with John really hurt. It feels like I have problems trusting a man now and Im not sure I can give my heart away again. This is probably why Im so suspicious and controlling. I can't allow that to happen to me again.- This is acknowledging to change.

Once you realize what alterations to your character a negative experience has caused, it is then you can take the proper steps to control it. You obviously cant change the increased caution you have with your relationships (its part of growing) but you can be aware of the backlash this elevated caution produces (always questioning and being suspicious, checking phones and emails, withdrawing when you feel feelings deepening, looking for small reasons to spark conflict *this often happens without you realizing it*) and do what you must to govern it FAIRLY according to the type of relationship you are in. You dont want to push away what could, at minimum, be a positive relationship experience. You deserve far better than that.

Coming up, Part 2: Get to know who you are dating, Can you handle him?

See you around tomorrow for Part 2
Until then...

Please don't let my hair fall out.

2008-11-22T19:15:00.002-06:00

I'm down to the wire now. In 2 weeks, I will have 4 final exams to complete and pass. I'm not worried one little bit...I'm worried a great big, huge chunk! No matter how much you study, prep, and practice before an exam, you always have that "what if" in the back of your head. Ahh well, such is expected on that challenging pathway to a degree. It will all be worth it in the end...

I will holding that coveted degree in my hands while I take a much needed nap. (smile)

Im off to study now, but who knows...I may be back later.

Until then...

I Failed!!!!

2008-11-21T19:17:00.002-06:00

My test. I can't believe I failed my Algebra test, thankfully, it wasn't the final exam. Whew! I really studied for this one too, but I conclude some additional effort was needed if I still failed. I already mentioned that I'm currently pursuing my degree, but what I didn't mention is I haven't seen the inside of a school since 1999. (laughing) Once I graduated, I focused all of my energy into taking care of my baby daughter. Yes, I was a little hotmama that ignored sound advice and followed negative examples...ended up pregnant and homeless at 17. (all turned out well though, God watched out for me every step of the way) Maybe I will touch on that at a later time, for now...lets get back to the test. After 9 years out of a classroom, you can get kind of shell shocked being dropped back into that setting. But I got it, and I'm excelling. Except for that test. I hate to fail, especially when I put forth honest effort. You know what that mean? I am going to hit the books, TWICE as hard, until I'm reciting math formulas in my sleep. (laughing...again) lol If only fractions were as appealing to me as writing....

Until next time

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2008-11-21T19:09:00.002-06:00

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Happy to be alive..

2008-11-13T08:52:00.004-06:00

It saddens me when people focus so much time and energy on what upsets them, than using that energy to focus on what makes them happy. Think about it...I mean, REALLY think about it. What are you mad about? And how significant is it to the production of your world? How often do we nitpick and point out little negative things to be frustrated over? now compare that to how often we pinpoint all the little positives that make our lives worth living.
No one..NO ONE has peaches and cream everyday. We all have issues and pet peeves. But we also have total control as to how we react to these situations.
Just because negative happens TO you...dont let that negative run THROUGH you.
I love waking up in the morning to all of my good senses in working order...a roof over my head with all bills paid...children smiling and climbing up in my arms. I love driving around in the warmth of a midday afternoon, riding with the windows down allowing my music to soothe my soul. Smiling at unsuspecting strangers while I bid them a blessed day...logging onto my blog to express myself free of censors and judgement....eating whatever I want and not going hungry in between those meals...Man, I could go on and on and on...
And so could you. Remember, it takes a strong character to smile in the midst of negativty.

I will never let anyone control my happiness. They can only contribute to it.
Until next time...

Called in sick...not feeling too well..

2008-11-12T09:29:00.004-06:00

LOL, please...don't act like you haven't done it before. (cough-cough) lol

Realistically, I have a TON of work today. Homework and of course, my blogs. Between working full time and going to school full time, being a mother, a wife, a friend...you figure out quickly that time loves to play hide and seek. And I'm always losing. :) So, I decided to take the day off to catch up on work and rest. What am I attending school for? Glad you asked, lol!
I am pursuing a double. Recording Technology and Arranging/Composing. I love music, but not just how it sounds. I love how it is made, the history behind it, the way its recorded. By the time I finish with my degree/training. I will be proficient in writing, composing, arranging, recording, mixing and mastering. Totally self contained. Then, hopefully God will bless me with an excellent internship at a studio or station and there will begin my journey to become one of the best producers the entertainment industry has experienced. (whew, thats a mouthful :)
Well, time to get this party started...

Until next time...

Intro to me...

2008-11-08T22:50:00.002-06:00

I talk alot. I mean, alot. Long-winded would be the more appropriate term for me. No, Im not the annoying kind that keeps going and going with no substance, I actually speak and write with comprehension. I just love to do it so much, I take advantage of every chance I get.! :) I use this blog to share my opinions and ideas, complaints and issues, and recieve opinions on my various literary compositions. Life, Love, Hate, Politics, Racism, Religion...nothing is too controversial for me and I dont have a biased opinion. With going to school full time, working full time, trying to be a good mother and wife...things tend to wear you thin. We all need an outlet, words are mine (thats also gotten me into serious trouble in the past, lol) If you are taking the time to read this far...leave a comment to let me know who you are!

Until next time...